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"This is pretty much what journals are all about, at least to me.
I knew as I wrote them that even though they provided
an excellent place for brain (and heart, and psyche) dump,
they were mainly a map of me."
          --- Colleen Wainwright


"Writing gives you the illusion of control,
and then you realize it's just an illusion,
that people are going to bring their own stuff into it."
          --- David Sedaris


"Please write again soon.
Though my own life is filled with activity,
letters encourage momentary escape into others lives
and I come back to my own with greater contentment."
          --- Elizabeth Forsythe Hailey


"In giving of myself onto these pages every day
I allow myself to write regardless of the depth and meaning.
I share myself with others without fear of recrimination
for these are my thoughts, my feelings and my very being,
and there are non who's opinion of me matters more than my own."
          --- Rebecca Laffar-Smith


The Writer's Round-About


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August 1, 2005 at 11:39pm
August 1, 2005 at 11:39pm
#363341
Well I'm hoping I'll get this entry in time for the first of August and start the month off right. *Smile* Today's been chaotic and it's not even lunch time lol. But hopefully the rest of the day will move at a more leisurely pace.

Last night I wasn't much in the mood for anything. I did manage to do a catch up of Dan's Journal (and blushes and thank you for your kind words in your latest entry Dan) I'm glad I was able to catch up because he had a lot of great entries. *points to my Member Blogs, everyone go and read Planner Dan* *Wink*

Other than that I vegged out for the night because I couldn't get the motivation to do any work. But today I want to get back into the routine. I've been thinking about my priorities and goals. What I hold important to my sense of self. Thankfully a movie I watched last night called Prozac Nation brought a few things home for me. I found myself echoing a lot of the main character. She's a manic depressive 19 year old journalism student. I enjoyed seeing one of her manic ups, it was wild, I'm pleased to know that I've never been that bad and I just wished they'd given a better example of what the low coming off such a high would have been like. The higher your high the lower your low when you're manic because it's like a giant pendulum.

Anyway, it got me thinking about the way I tend to be self defeating. There are no other things holding me back from what I want but myself. I keep putting my own detours and roadblocks in and I know it so hopefully it won't be too difficult to dedicate myself to change. Strive ahead and go after what I want instead of making it so hard for myself.

Still it's big dreaming and it's not going to be easy. 23 years of habit can be hard to break. One of the first things I need to do is take another good look at my budget. Last month I know I blew a lot of money I really didn't need to and this month I'm going to get a better grip on that. Blowing money where I shouldn't be is putting my goals out. My driveway is still not paved because I sacrificed $100 on DVD's or $50 on a trip to the movies etc.

I always feel bad after spending money I could have saved and think about how much better I would have felt if I'd saved the money and waited till after I'd paved the driveway to move the DVD's into importance. It comes down to priorities really, and imediate satisfaction versus the end result.

In the modern world we are involved in a lot more instant gratification. You drive down to the fast food shop to get instant dinner, you have instant photographs, instantly pay bills online, instant money from a teller machine, etc. We expect to get what we want right away and this sort of life style makes having to wait for things a lot harder. The truth is I like having what I want now, I'm not a fan of layby because your giving money but not taking anything home. Thankfully I haven't swung the other way and falling into a credit trap which would be equally as self destructive.

So, I think I'll be writing a lot of lists over the next fews days, sorting out my priorities and deciding what is most important to me. What I want to accomplish for my own self esteem. Not writing is very destructive because being a published author has been a goal for as long as I can remember. Each day I don't write, and don't edit is another day I'm not reaching for that goal. And if every day is like that I'll never have that dream.

Financially, each dollar I don't save is another dollar away from having the kind of home I want to live in. I keep a small list on the side of my monitor with a prioritized list of what I'm saving for. I think I need to make it more prominent, perhaps add a copy to my purse and stickytape a copy to my bank card. That way any time I'm tempted to spend money I think about what I really want.

So, in the hopes of starting August in the right frame of mind I hope to get this entry in on the 1st and go for a blue month. *Smile* I hope everyone else has the chance to evaluate what is really important for them and decide to use the month to further their dreams and goals.
July 31, 2005 at 9:57pm
July 31, 2005 at 9:57pm
#363113
Well, wouldn't you just know it. Just when I was doing so well making the week all blue the stupid modem devil strikes again. Yesterday morning, no internet. I tried a few of my regular troubleshooting to no avail and because I had the family dinner to content with I didn't fuss too much. Had a lot of housework and cooking to get done instead.

My allergy reaction had mostly settled down, still had swollen hands and feet which makes me think that perhaps I was bitten by something. With the ant problems I have it was probably an ant. Anyway, today I'm much better. The swelling is all gone and everything else is back to normal.

And, even better still, the guy on the helpdesk at Bdigital actually knew what he was doing and got me up and running again in minutes. I could have done it myself on Sunday but I didn't remember the log in details for the modem details page. I've got that written down now.

He also told me there is a known problem with the modems getting too hot. My modem was really hot yesterday so I expect he's right to guess that could have been the problem. He's told me he props his on it's side so it doesn't overheat (the air vents and on the bottom). I'm giving this a shot since it definately happens with regularity that relates to a problem from overheating.

The good news is (at least for some) that I'm back online and I'll get the last day of the month blue even if I did miss a day this week. It's already August here in Australia, hey I better go pinch and punch Josh before it's too late. *Wink*

The dogs jacket can't have been the cause of my allergy reaction because the reaction has settled down now and the jacket is still in residence on my dog. I'm thinking either a bite from something (strange because I don't recall getting bitten and no particular part was worse than the rest of me) or the prawn crackers. Assuming things stay cleared up I'll probably test the cracker theory next week. Then if I react again I'll know for a fact that's what it was and can stay away from them.

That's it for me today because with the trouble with the modem I'm a bit behind on the day so I've got to keep this short. I hope everyone had a lovely weekend. *waves*
July 29, 2005 at 7:25pm
July 29, 2005 at 7:25pm
#362731
Yesterday I had an allergic reaction to something. It was a decent reaction, more than a local bee sting type with full body splotches and itchiness. I don't remember doing anything different than usual except having a prawn cracker (never used to be allergic to these) or perhaps touching my dogs new jacket.

At first I assumed it must be the prawn cracker, I had eaten one minutes before the reaction first started and haven't had one in years prior to that. I was at playgroup with Josh before it got noticable (about half an hour later) and so I headed home and dug around my cupboard for an antihistamine. Could only find a hayfever one but I figured that was better than nothing.

Anyway, the reaction settled down as the day progressed and was clear by the time I went to pick up Kaylie from school. At the school I did my normal thing check her pidgeon hole, and check her lunchbox. There were the prawn crackers I'd packed for her lunch, barely touched so I passed them to Joshua.

By the time I was home again the reaction was back. Took a shower and another antihistamine but it never really faded after that and it actually seemed to get worse, not better, as the night progressed. It wasn't serious enough to worry about so I bared with it and headed to bed thinking that a good nights sleep and 8 hours time would mean it would be gone in the morning.

Well, now it's morning and while it's definately faded a fair bit it's still there. *Frown* I can't understand it. The prawn crackers were finished yesterday afternoon and I haven't touched them since. That's what got me thinking it could be the dogs jacket. He slept on my bed the night before last and I'd likely patted him during the day at some stage.

Anyway, none of it really fits. Josh just had his immunisation and one of the things he was immunised for mentioned that other family members might get a reaction from contact with him. It could be that I supposed. Or it could be something in the chinese food we had for dinner night before last. I could even have been bitten by an ant or something and not known about it.

So, I'm allergic to something and I don't know what it is. And I'm still itchy. I've taken another antihistamine this morning so I'm hoping it will clear up in a bit. But because I don't know what caused it I don't know if I'll be able to stay away from it today.

As far as allergies go this one seems alright. I'm also allergic to is bee and wasp venom. I'm severely allergic which means getting stung by a bee or a wasp would put me in hospital. Years ago, back in primary school, I was on a detox program for it. They would inject me with minute amounts of venom every week (for two years) trying to build up my resistance to the venom. It wasn't very successful. In a detox program of this sort it's normal to be able to spread the doses of venom out after time and still only get a local reaction. I had to be monitored very closely after each injection because while it was minute traces I was guarenteed a local and sometimes a full blown anaphalectic reaction.

One other thing I've noticed I react to is sented soaps or paper. Makes going to the toilet interesting when I'm not at home. The shopping centers are usually pretty good about unscented paper but other peoples homes are a risk. I always buy unscented soap and unscented toilet paper. Thankfully the reaction to this is minimal and irritating, not dangerous.

What sorts of things are you allergic too and how do you deal with your allergies?
July 28, 2005 at 8:15am
July 28, 2005 at 8:15am
#362392
Well, you can blame Scarlett, but I'm going to mention my dogs trip to the groomer. I freely admit that he was a bit overdue for a grooming. He's a West Highlander Terrier, a beautiful little white dog, yappy and excitable, but his fur can get a little matted when it gets longer and he doesn't have the patience for regular brushing (nor do I).

He loves going out in the car and he looks so cute sitting up on the chair watching the world go by. Sometimes he likes to sit pointer style with his nose, his head, his whole body rivitted out of the front windscreen. It's like he's watching where we are going, eager to get there. *Smile*

I went back three hours late to pick him up and he's been shorn good and proper. They had to cut it shorter than they normally would have for Winter but it's the same adorable Summer cut we get for him. My mother thinks he looks like Sir Diddymus from The Labyrinth. *Smile* Anyway, because of the chilly weather his fur is too short to give much warmth so the groomer suggested getting him one of those doggy jackets.

Man, what some people put on their dogs. It's shameful. There were footy jerseys and cardigan type things etc. I got her attention quick and said "NO CLOTHES". I'm not putting clothes on my dog. If I wanted my dog wearing people clothes he can wear Kaylie's clothes. Anyway, I did find something that is perfect. A cute red and black tartan-pattern jacket that is more like a horse blanket, it straps up underneath and across the chest.

Being tartan it seems to suit him well. *Smile* He looks adorable in it and seems very happy. I'll have to take a photograph of him now so you can all see.

And, just because I'm not comfortable dedicating a whole entry to my dog (I must admit I've done well so far *Wink* ) My second subject involves Ex In-Laws.

Paul was never big on family. He only visited his mother and siblings when he wanted something. His father had left when he was ten and he hadn't heard from his for years until a couple of years ago when his sister got in touch. Since then his father's partner tends to contact us, his father did occasionally call to talk to him on the phone but never got much warmth, and Cheryl (the partner) emails me lots of those funny joke emails etc.

I hadn't told Cheryl that Paul and I had split up. I felt being his family it's his responsibility to share that information with them. I did however send her an e-card for her birthday and she sent me a lovely letter in response saying thank you and catching me up with a little of how she is. Apparently she had heard that Paul and I are separated from Paul's sister. Obviously Paul still doesn't think much of family.

It's amazing the sorts of differences you notice with distance. I've always thought family was very important and I'm very close to my family (and wish I could be closer with my father's side like I am with my mothers). It always annoyed me that he didn't make an effort with his family. I think this is one of the traits I'll notice in anyone I date from now on. To me it's important to want to be with your family.

It seems trivial perhaps, but bonds of blood give you a right to be someones friend. At least I feel that way. Possibly because I have so much trouble making friends. I'm glad Cheryl and Graeme (Paul's father) still want to talk to me. I'll definately do all I can to keep up our relationship. I'll have to hunt up some photographs to send them shortly. *Smile*

Have a great day/night everyone and if you haven't talked to your family in a while, drop them a line. Everyone appreciates knowing you love them and think about them.
July 27, 2005 at 7:36pm
July 27, 2005 at 7:36pm
#362298
Well, I must admit that I'm stumbling about for something worth writing about here today. I was going to comment about taking my dog to the groomer since that's basically all that's planned for today other than the regular school to and from. But, really, who cares about dog grooming (well I suppose it's of interest to some people, like the groomers.)

Anyway, I ducked over to Scarlett's Blog in the hopes of stealing her ideas. *Wink* (At least I admit it Scarlett, I'm an honest theif *Wink* ) She wrote about a review she recieved that offered more confusion about the reviewers state of mind than anything.

I write a lot of poetry and I think poetry gets a lot of lame reviews (I know mine does but maybe it's just because I'm a terrible poet.) These days I've learnt not to care about reviews good or bad. There is still a tingle of annoyance when someone rates it a 3 or 4 star (and even a 4.5) and all they say is that they really enjoyed it, or loved it or whatever. I'm left wondering what I could do to bring them to 5 stars.

I used to reply to these reviews and ask outright, "Look buddy, you said you loved it but only rated it a 3.5, what could I do to make this a 5 star poem in your opinion?" More often than not the reviewer has no idea why it's not perfect to them. I suspect the comment is a cop out, it's there just to keep their rating to review ratio maxed. In this case the rating is more important.

These days I've taken to giving a standed response that thanks them for taking the time to read, rate and review. If there was some substance to the review I'll expound more in the response but if not then that's basically it. I write the thanks (I mean they did, after all, take the time to read, rate and review and I appreciate the value of time.) Then I delete the review and give it no more thought.

I have to admit that I avoid giving meaningless reviews. If I cannot offer anything useful to the writer their peice won't get a rating. On my bad days I might read something but not be up to reviewing because of my own mental state (I don't want to review because I'll come across as a bitch and be a bit nastier than they deserve.) I leave it unrated as well as unreviewed because it means I can come back and do it another time (if I happen to come across it again someday).

Writing.com is the best place I've found when it comes to recieving feedback. There are other sites out there that encourage feedback but a lot of the time the ratio of smoke blowing vs. constructive is well tipped toward the smoke blowing side of things. There is some of that here but for the most part reviews are helpful even if they offer little feedback. Perhaps I don't have a full picture of it all since I'm basing my opinion on personal experience. I don't pay attention to my item ratings so I don't know if I've been given an anonymous low rating and I've never recieved a review (anonymous or otherwise) that ranted on about how terrible something was.

It all really comes down to common sense as a writer. You accept the good reviews with the bad. Read each one, take what you want from them and then trash them. Even a great review might have comments that you disagree with. Just because the reviewer knew how to put a few lines together doesn't mean that they know what is best for your own work. You have to use your own judgement to decide if their suggestions will improve your piece. If they won't then ignore them. It's the only way to prevent a conflict because each reviewer is different and they'll occasionally have opposing views.

I know this from experience. I've done a survey of sorts about one of my poems. (Baby Boy) I originally wrote the poem with no punctuation and recieved a couple of reviews that suggested adding punctuation would improve the poem. I was undecided, punctuation has merits but this poem was a little 'listy' and punctuation very tricky to include. Ultimately I felt that adding punctuation would force my interpretation on the readers where as leaving it unpunctuated allowed them to decide how they emphasised things.

Anyway, because of the reviews and my indicision I decided to punctuate the poem and put them both together on one page with a comment about how I was undecided and please tell me which version you prefer or if you would change any of the punctuation. You know what? I was write, since then about 50% of people thought the unpunctuated better and obviously 50% thought the punctuated version the best. Reviews that offered suggestions on alternate punctuation vary so greatly from each other and my own that it really does emphasise that every reader gets something different from a poem.

So, having said that I've learnt to write it the way you feel it should be written. Accept reviews and read them, if they offer you something you feel you can use, use it, but otherwise say thanks and use the trash can. Just because they took the time to review does not mean that they are right.

The other thing I always do is pay attention to the skill of the reviewer. If their review is full of spelling errors and they are offering you advice on spelling, get out the dictionary to check the correct spelling, they could be correcting you incorrectly. Same goes for grammar, if they are offering grammar suggestions and could improve their own, check it. (Makes me think of Dan's review for The Dating Game Chapter 01. He made a grammar correction and he's usually great with grammar but I'm still going to get out my book and check on that specific rule. No offense Dan but it's something I've never done with my writing and I'd like to learn the official way to handle it. Bet you 10,000GPs you are right, but I'm always up for learning new things. *Bigsmile* )

Anyway, I've rambled on and I guess I at least had something half interesting to talk about. My entry offers companionship to Scarlett's so make sure you stop in there to read hers and offer a constructive comment. *Smile*
July 26, 2005 at 3:37am
July 26, 2005 at 3:37am
#361982
I can't believe how long it's been since I've read other blogs. I'm feeling a bit swamped about it actually because there are so many entries that it's hard to catch up. But, I don't want to miss anything either so I can't go skipping any entries.

For those listed in my Member Blogs beware that I'm likely to deluge you with blog comments shortly. I'll try to catch up and I'll try to make sure I leave comments on everything. *Smile* Bare with me however, because I'm a fair way behind and it could take me a while to catch up with you.

I'm actually considering a new project at the moment. It's kind of an old project that I had put aside for a while to focus on other things. Obviously I'm working on my romance novel, "Invalid Item (thanks to everyone who've given me feedback so far, your comments have been tremendously helpful), but, I'm also planning to get back into the web design I used to do and hopefully back into roleplaying.

A long time ago, 1998 I created Outlanda Games and in December 2003 I handed it over to my second in command and left it in her capable hands so that I could focus on my family and my writing. I had Josh in April 2004 and had been fairly busy with that side of things for the last year. Now life is settling down again and I'm really missing Outlanda Games. I remember her fondly and have frequently stopped back there to see how my baby was doing.

Well it's falling into quiet at the moment and I'm kind of hoping that my former 2IC, Mino, will consider handing over the reigns again. She's very busy herself and I know from previous experience of running the site that you have to put a lot of time and effort into it to keep things running smoothly. I think her lack of time is what has caused the site to fall so far behind it's previous success.

Of course, I don't know if she'll be willing to give it up now she's put so much of herself into it. It certainly isn't easy. I remember the anguish and turmoil I went through when giving it up in December 2003 and have never really let it go completely. If Mino cannot part with the site I'm thinking of creating another.

Either way it's still in the consideration factor. I'd have a lot of work ahead of me if I decided to go ahead with it but these days I'm in the financial position to do so and I'm also in the position of having the sort of time required to make it work. I miss programming, roleplaying and even shockingly enough administration. It would be wonderful to get back into things with the knowledge gained the first time I ran the site and in the years between.

So, while nothing is concrete yet I may have a new project to look forward too. *Smile*
July 25, 2005 at 12:31am
July 25, 2005 at 12:31am
#361756
Hey everyone, well as I mentioned in my Harry Potter post below I've gotten back to my novel with a little more confidence and have finally completed the second draft of the first chapter and I've posted into The Dating Game book. The book is protected by a passkey because I want to restrict the viewing (to prevent copyright problems) and I also want to know who is reading it. If you'd like to help me by reading the chapters as a reviewer I'd really appreciate your assistance. Please contact me and I'll add you to my reviewer list and let you know the passkey so you can check it out. *Smile*

I was actually pleasantly surprised. As I write my inner critique is constantly bombarding me with how terrible it all sounds and how immature and amatuer it all is. I know I'm still technically new to all this and I just don't have the confidence to believe I can write something worth reading.

It's a terrible feeling. *Frown* All I've ever wanted, all I've ever strived for career was, is becoming a published author. But so far all my accomplishments seem so small, so pittiful and often mostly luck or chance. I've been told I'm good but I've never really believed it. I put down compliments as peoples lack of knowledge about how writing should be or simple flattery because they don't want to hurt my feelings.

I know I should do this to myself. It's the self-defeat that prevents any action and it's most certainly the fear of failure that prevents me from striving directly for my dreams. I have to admit also that I'm terrified I am good enough. I mean what if I write this book and it's great. Then I've got to move into more uncharted waters. I've got to submit and deal with rejection from the publisher level. And then of course there's the what if it's accepted. I don't know much about where things go from there and it's more scary uncertainty. Not to mention the fact that once this book is over I don't want to believe I could be a one hit wonder. So I'd have to write another book.

I can't help but wonder if I really have anything at all to say. I don't have anything to share with the world. Why would anyone want to read anything I write? Do I have a unique message, an interesting story that will touch the hearts of readers? I hope so but sometimes I can't help wondering if I'm just writing a load of meaningless crap.

I know, it's these kinds of comments that are holding me back. I have to believe in myself but I don't know how to. I suppose I just have to plod along on the risk that I suck. It's not like I've got anything better to do. I'm raising two kids and I don't plan to get back into the retail business which is about all I'm qualified for. So, put my time to writing instead of wasting it on the mundane things that don't move me forward.

At least, take the chance that I can do this. The dream is worth it. Courage is being afraid but doing it anyway. *Smile* That affirmation always makes me feel wonderful. So, who's up for my first chapter? Only honest reviewers accepted.
July 24, 2005 at 8:12pm
July 24, 2005 at 8:12pm
#361699
Well I've finally done it! I'd read the first 5 Harry Potter books back when they each came out and while I don't think Joanna Rowling started off as a very good writer she had an excellent story to tell. I think the popularity of the novels which allowed her to gain experience from the director and script writers of the movies has really improved her own writing. It gives me hope that I too can become a great author rather than just a good one if the stories are great.

I'm glad I read the first five again before starting number six because all the details were fresh on my mind. Important things happen through each of the books that have a serious effect on the books that follow and I have to admit I'm not too pleased about now having to wait for her to write and publish number seven. I'm also wondering how she's going to wrap number seven up because of the major events that ended number six.

I think these books are great for all readers big and small, young and old. *Smile* Especially writers will benifit by reading her earlier novels and comparing them with the skill she begins to develop the more she writes. In her earlier novels there is a lot more fluff and the more she writes the more adept she's become at cutting the nonsense stuff out. I think she also increased her target audience. The first two novels are definately written for the primary school age and the immature authorship reflects that. As she writes further and further into the story the language while still being great for kids is also a lot less immature for adults. Then again perhaps this has a lot to do with characters. Each book is another year of development of teenage characters and obviously due to the events in each book they are growing up very fast.

I had wonderful momentum on reading these books. I got the first five last week and read a book a day. The first three books are smaller than the last two so I could read them in a few hours (about 5) but the last two are fairly monsterous. It took me more like 20 hours (burn the candle both ends to finish it) to read number five and yesterday it took me 13 hours to read number six cover to cover. This week has focus on reading those books which is why I haven't been online much, particularly this weekend. Spent two days mostly in bed reading while keeping an ear on the kids and getting up a couple of times to get them meals. *Bigsmile*

But now it's done. Got at least a year I'd think until the next one is out and number fours movie shouldn't be too much longer in the coming. Now it's time to return to normal life although I must admit I'm inspired into getting back to my novel. I need to edit it and I haven't really started. Been too perfectionist and I'm terrified that it's no good. But having seen the growth Rowling shows as a writer from one book to the next I think the most important thing is getting it written. If this books not great, it's only my first and I'm sure to improve. *Smile*

So, onward and upward and everyone go out and read the six Harry Potter books (Oh! and keep tissues on hand, you'll get attached to these characters and you'll need them. *Wink* )
July 20, 2005 at 3:51am
July 20, 2005 at 3:51am
#360892
It's the first week back at school after the mid year holidays and Kaylie was invited for her first real play date. She'd been invited to two birthday parties in the first half of the year but she was invited to a friends house to play after school yesterday.

It seems like a monumental step. She's growing up and the independance of playing at a friends house (without her Mum) seems to me to be huge. Of course she didn't think too much about it. She got to play and had fun but she didn't seem to think it was anything as important as I do. lol

It's strange how my perspective of what she's doing these days is so different from her own. I seem to notice the small things that she takes for granted. To me it was a big step towards her becoming a 'big' girl when she was finally able to clip up her own seat belt. For months it was something we were practicing and she kept getting frustrated because it just wouldn't go in without a bit of pressure added by Mummy. And then one day it did, and since then she's done it herself every time. To me that's a huge step but other than being pleased that she'd finally got it she doesn't see the significance I put in it. lol

I also really loved it when she held Josh's hand while we were out walking one time. They were walking together a few steps ahead of me on their own and it looked adorable but it also made them both seem so much older, so much more grown up and heading away from being my babies.

It's been wonderful to know that Kaylie is making friends at school. Because of my social phobia she gets a fairly strange perspective of friendships at home. I don't really go out much and I don't have people visiting or go over to anyone's house except my mothers. She doesn't see much in the way of an example of social interactions at home so it's been a huge concern for me about her learning these things. That's why I enrolled her (at exhorbitant costs) into 3 year old kindy a couple of years ago, hoping to get an early start on getting her used to the way the world works in that sense.

She's still very shy and reserved. Last year in kindy she made a couple of friends but it was more along the lines of being people she would mix with, blend around, and know their name. She didn't have people she was steadfast with. Anyone she'd play with before school or anyone who would visit with us after school or who's house she could go play at.

By the end of that year she'd grown more comfortable with her school 'friends' and then of course the school year ends and the next year she's mixed with a new group of people. Thankfully there were a couple of the people she'd grown to know in Kindy in her new class. In the first term she made fast friends with a boy who seems very much like her. They are the best of friends and it was wonderful to know she'd made a connection like that.

Now she's starting to really spread out amongst her school friends. She knows them all and they all know her and talk to her. She can still be a little reserved but at lot less so than she used to be and I think she's finally starting to come out of shell. I'm a little wary of next year. I'm praying that she and her best friend will be in the same class.

I guess I should just be content that she's enjoying school and making friends. Next year is six months away after all. Twenty school weeks to go (Nineteen and a half actually *Wink* ) It's just amazing how much she's growing up.

I've also found as the school years progressed I'm becoming more comfortable around the other parents. There are two mothers I enjoy chatting with particularly and one of the fathers I'm starting to get used to. I tend to sidle into conversations in the hopes of making friends. As a writer I've gotten into the habit of being in the position to overhear conversations and I'm finally finding the confidence to also take part on more and more occassions.

I sense if I was free of this phobia I'd be a real social butterfly. I love getting out and about and it's only this stupid phobia that holds me back from all of that. I'm a Gemini and they thrive of social activity and deep down I know I truly live up to that sense on the inside. I just wish I had the courage to live up to it on the outside too.

But, like Kaylie, I'm making leaps and bounds in that sense. *Smile* We all grow, and keep growing up, no matter how old we get. It's only because children do it so rapidly that we notice it in them.

I've talked all about the way Kaylie's grown but Josh grows even faster at this stage. The only thing he's not seeming to grow with is language. Or rather he is, he understands a great deal of language and does (when he wants to) what he's told. He depends a lot on body language but also understand many words. But he's yet to say anything. No words at all from his mouth and he's almost a year and a half now. *Frown* I know, someday he'll come out in full sentences and I'll wonder why I ever worried but because I see him growing so quickly in other area's his not talking is something that seems really significant at the moment.

Anyway, I've yarned your ears off over and over and all about these rather mundane things. Me, me, me and my kids. lol How boring for you all. Hopefully the observations mixed in there make this half interesting. *Smile* I'm glad to be able to talk about it all because it at least gets it out of my head, lol, I know, evil aren't I, to be getting it out of mine but forcing it into yours. *Wink*
July 18, 2005 at 7:41am
July 18, 2005 at 7:41am
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I've decided to go and see Les Miserables when it is on at the Regal Theatre Subiaco later this year. I've been sent a 25% discount offer and it's the sort of thing I'd love to do. Live theatre has always been something I love but rarely get a chance to enjoy. A couple of years ago I saw David Strassman which was a lot of fun and a few years before that I took Paul to see Jimeoin for his birthday.

I would love to see more plays, ballet, the circus, etc. but it's always so expensive. Much more than my budget would permit regularly and of course I've got no one to go with. I don't have a circle of friends and my family isn't interested in that sort of thing. I'm going to have to find myself a rich, culture-loving guy who'll take me to the theatre all the time. *Smile*

Anyway, despite all that I've decided to splurge on Lew Miserables even if it means going alone. I saw an advert on TV announcing the show coming to Perth in october and thought, "Wow, I'd love to see that." Then when this 25% off, offer arrived in the mail today I figure it's a sign. 25% off also makes it much more affordable. It'll mean skimping on the recreation budget for a little bit but it's manageable and I feel it will be worth it.

I still remember each of the times I've seen a live show. The last time, in fact the only time, I saw a play was back in high school. It was a feild trip of sorts to prepare us for the play we were going to be giving later in the year. I remember doing that play too. I was in charge of music and also played a small role in "The Merchant of Venice". I was terrified of being on stage but I grew to love the thrill of it all. Still, I love watching others do the acting more than the thrill of being an actress but I couldn't get out of doing that small role.

So, I'm looking forward to October and the chance to go out for the night and enjoy a live show. *Smile*

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