A man discontented with work and his under-employed wife seek financial freedom. |
Andy watched from the doorway of the barn where heâd been supervising the feeding of animals as the limousine returned from the airport with the couple to be our next guests at San Salvador Dude Ranch and Retreat Center. I didnât get a chance to review their file as we went to join Maria, who stepped out of the hacienda to greet them. When she finished her welcome, Maria turned to Andy and introduced him to Henry and Patricia Vogel. âAndy is not only our Farm Director, heâs also a licensed Pentecostal minister. We also have Father Paul, a Catholic priest and counselor, and John OâMalley, who is our Administrator. âNow, if youâll come inside, weâll locate Mr. OâMalley and heâll review with you why youâre here at the ranch.â Half an hour later, I entered my office, smoothing my damp hair, parted on the right of my round head. âGood morning, folks. I am John OâMalley. Please forgive me for not being available to welcome you to our home. I was out discussing work issues with the help.â I shook their hands and went to my desk to review their file. A software engineer for a large corporation, Henry Vogel had conflicts with his supervisor over how work was to be done. He also complained about the relative lack of production he perceived from fellow workers. His new wife, Patricia, had just received a degree in Child Development. I looked up at the couple. He had a medium height and build, light brown hair and dark blue eyes. Her blond hair framed a pretty face and warm blue eyes, above a slender body. They were holding hands. I grinned at them. âHow recently was your honeymoon?â They smiled at each other. Henry answered, âEight months ago.â I nodded. âThen you returned to work?â He nodded and gritted his teeth. âAt first, things at work seemed better. LanceâŚumâŚMr. Cartwright, my boss, wasnât so hard to take. But recently, heâs been on me again about how I do my job.â Patricia comfortingly placed her free hand over Henryâs. âIn any case,â I returned to my original thought, âletâs treat your stay here as a second honeymoon. Rest, eat, enjoy each otherâs company. In a couple of days, Andy can take you riding or you can play tennis or whatever. When youâre rested, Henry, you can talk to me or Father Paul or Andy about your work issues.â When they had left, Phyllis announced the arrival of Bill Weaver. The University of Arizona in Tucson had asked if a student studying Therapeutic Recreation could do an internship at the ranch. With the Familyâs approval, I agreed. âMr. Weaver,â I said after we shook hands and sat, âplease tell me about yourself.â The young man laid his hands on the arms of his chair and settled himself. âMr. OâMalley, I was born in Germany, the son of an Army officer stationed there. My family moved from post to post with my father or lived on an American base while he went alone to high-risk assignments. Iâve never been in one place more than about three years. âIâve done OK in school. Iâve studied well at U of A and Iâm about ready to graduate and begin my career. I simply need to successfully complete this internship.â He stopped and waited for a response. I studied him. His size well matched his height â more than six feet â though he didnât look imposing. His short, blond hair harmonized with his face which was unadorned by the rings and studs typical of people his age. His clothes appeared clean and professional. âI understand,â I said. âTell me what you know of our establishment here.â âWhat I have been told is that you take in corporate employees who are causing trouble for their employers. You give them rest and help them deal with the causes of their problems. You have certain activities for them to do but no structured program. I would be pleased to develop a program that will enhance your work here.â He sat back, pleased or confident with himself. âOK so far,â I replied. âWhat have you been told about me?â âI have heard you came from out East somewhere with your brothers to set up this place. You have done fairly well and have a growing reputation among corporate executives. I wish to help.â âVery well, I will assign you to work with Father Paul, who deals directly with our guests. You may meet with him after supper. For now, I would have you learn what our guests experience when arriving. Go to the room assigned to you and restâŚsleep if you can. We usually donât get people up for supper but weâll make an exception in your case.â With that, I stood and shook the young manâs hand again. Then he turned and left. The next morning, Henry went to the barn where Andy hefted a shovel, mucking out a stall. The middle-aged cowboy pointed to the otherâs clean shorts and shirt and commented, âIf yaâll want ta stay clean in here, youâll need ta put on clothes such as Iâm wearinâ.â He waved at his overalls and boots, which were splattered with filth and straw. âWhere can I get some?â the young man asked. Andy indicated a row of pegs on the wall near the barn door. On them were various outfits, including overalls. Henry pulled on a set and returned to talk. âSo, what do you do here at the ranch?â The Farm Director answered in a soft Texan twang, âIâm thâ resident cowboy âround these parts. I ride thâ range anâ supervise thâ care oâ thâ animals. I even muck out stalls on occasion.â He pushed his Stetson back on his round head and rested on the manure shovel heâd been wielding. Henry gazed at him. âYou ever argue with Mr. OâMalley over how things should be done?â âOh, occasionally.â Andy took off the hat and wiped his brow. His hair was parted down the middle of his head. âHeâs big on âfficiency anâ keepinâ things organized. Iâm more laid back â see somethinâ needs doinâ anâ do it or delegate it. Aftâ someâŚerâŚdiscussions, weâve agreed that heâll coordinate the ministry overall but I run thâ ranch as I see fit. Ya canât always be efficient with animals.â âWhat are your arguments like? Ever have real doozies?â âNah. We gotta live together. Anâ weâve learned how ta argue constructively. Not attack each other but deal with the problem.â âIs Mr. OâMalley ever rough on you? A really hard boss?â âOh, no. Like I said, we live together â we gotta get along. Weâve had ta learn how ta relate positively. Besides, Samantha covers us good in prayer anâ Father Paul watches over us all.â Henry blinked. âSamantha? I donât remember meeting her.â Andy stood erect and shook his head, hefting the shovel. âAnâ Iâm sorry I mentioned her. Sheâs a special little girl âmong us with a special situation anâ talents of her own. We tend ta be very protective of her.â âSpecial problems and talents? Is she an idiot-savant?â The cowboy stared at him. âA who?â âAn idiot-savant. Someone who is mentally retarded in general but extremely talented in some special area. Like the moron who can play any tune heâs heard only once. Or the autistic person who canât relate to the world but is a real math whiz.â âOh, OK. No, Samanthaâs not like that. She went through a lotta severe abuse years ago. Now, sheâs a mighty prayer warrior fer thâ community anâ our work here. We couldnâ make it without her.â âOh, Iâm sorry,â the younger man turned away, embarrassed. âHey,â Andy spoke soothingly. âIffen it haânât happened, we couânât help people as well as we do now.â Henry nodded his understanding. âBut anyway, you say youâve learned how to get along with your boss.â âI had to. We talked anâ came to an agreement. I donâ criticize how he handles people in his job anâ he doesnât tell me how to do mine. He may tell me something needs to be done for the sake of our guests but I decide how to do it.â Henry started unbuttoning his overalls. âWell, thanks. Iâll think about that.â Andy held out a hand. âWhoa. Where ya goinâ? Arenât ya gonna help with thâ chores?â He held out the shovel toward the guest. âWhat, me!? Muck out stalls?â The software engineer backed away. âI donât think so!â The cowboy chuckled as Henry shucked off the overalls and hung them up. Bill Weaver spent a few days learning how things were done for our guests. He talked with Father Paul and Andy and me. And he had Maria share about her work with the guests. Finally, he began to put on paper what we already did and to develop an over-all program of activities. He included a list of suggestions for improvements on our present work. These he shared with Paul and Maria, who listened with great interest. That afternoon, Patricia, clad in white shorts and a light blue top, sought out Father Paul, who sat writing in the chapel office. He looked up at her knock and set aside his work. âHello, Father.â âMrs. Vogel. Please, come in. Sit.â She sat and crossed her pretty legs. âPlease call me Patty. Iâd like to talk to you, if I may, about Henry and his work.â âCertainly, Patty. How may I help?â She leaned forward to look earnestly at the priest. âFather, Iâm worried about Henry losing his job. His boss said if things donât improve after this little vacation, heâll have to fire him.â Father Paul nodded his round head. âI can see how that would be hard on your husband. What worries you?â âIâm afraid we wonât have enough income if Henry gets fired.â âDoesnât he make a lot of money as a software engineer?â âHe does now, but he wonât if he gets fired.â She wrung her hands together. âDo the two of you have any savings or investments? Or do you spend all he makes?â Patricia sighed and sat back. âWe pretty much spend it all and then some. Weâve been running up some bills with our credit cards and charge accounts.â The priest fought to suppress a wince. He had seen too many other families burdened with foolish debts. It took years to deal with those problems. He clasped his hands and rested his arms on the desk. âI can see why youâd be worried. Do you work outside the home? I know you have a degree.â The young womanâs eyes lit up. âYes, I have. I could have started working at a daycare center after I graduated but we chose to get married instead. Since then, weâve decided to live off Henryâs income alone.â She frowned slightly and looked away. Father Paul said, âYou seem unhappy about that.â Patricia looked back at him, wide-eyed. âOh, no! Iâm happy that he wants to support me and is able to.â She paused. âItâs just that I want to have children and with our bills, we decided we canât afford them yet.â The middle-aged man nodded, his hair flopping down from its part on the left side of his round head. âHmm. I see. And Henry doesnât want you to work outside the home.â âNo. He says itâs the manâs place to provide for his family.â âAnd you agree with him?â She looked shocked. âWell, of course! Heâs my husband. I have to submit to whatever he wants.â Father Paul sat back. âNow, wait a minute. I agree the Bible says youâre to submit to him and respect him. However, it doesnât say you have to agree all the time. Youâve obviously talked about your finances and whether to have children. But how much of that was him telling you how it would be?â Patricia looked at her hands in her lap. âA lot of it.â She looked up, pleading with her eyes. âFather, I really want to work with children â especially our own children. How can I do that if he wonât let me work or have kids?â Father Paul smiled. âI like how you put that question. Youâre not complaining how mean he is to you. Youâre asking how you can get something â something you need and want.â The young woman blinked in surprise. âSay, youâre right! Thatâs something I was taught to encourage adolescents to do â look for how to solve their problems. She frowned again. âBut what about disagreeing with my husband? I thought I was supposed to support him in everything.â The priest replied, âAnd he is supposed to provide for you everything you need and want. And you need children in your life. You also need to be able to speak up when you disagree on issues while you submit to his authority. Do you see the difference?â Patricia nodded her head thoughtfully. âYe-es. I see the difference.â She looked up at him. âDo you think you and I can talk with him together and make him see it?â He grinned. âWe can certainly try. You know about using âI feelâŚâ statements?â âOh, yes. I use them all the time.â âOK. Iâll set an appointment to meet with the both of you.â Patricia stood up. âThank you, Father. I feel much better already.â âGood,â he replied. He held up his hand for her to wait. âMeanwhile, I want you to look at what Proverbs 31 says about a good wife.â âOK. Thanks.â Father Paul smiled as he watched her sail out the door then he returned to the sermon he was writing. âIt was for freedom that Christ has set you free.â That could be applied in so many ways. He didnât notice Maria watching from the office door which was always kept open, especially during talks with women. That evening, it pleased me to see Patricia studying a Bible with Maria at her side. Our guest seemed excited about the discussion. I made my way over to where Henry was leafing brusquely through a sports magazine. I took in his frown of discontent and sat down across from him. After a moment, he noticed and looked up. His face relaxed into cool indifference. âThinking about work?â I asked. He looked down at the magazine. âThat and other things.â He glanced over to where the women were seated. âAre you wishing your wife was with you?â He blushed. âTo tell you the truth, yes. This isnât much of a honeymoon if sheâs not spending time with me.â I nodded. âI suggested another âhoneymoonâ with the idea of getting you to rest â to talk with each other about marriage issues. I have learned you have more to deal with than just problems at work.â He looked startled. âWhat do you mean?â âI mean your wife is unhappy about not being around children â your own or other peopleâs.â âWe canât afford to have children and I donât want her to work if she doesnât have to.â âEven if she wants to?â âListen. We agreed she doesnât need to work, so she doesnât.â He looked at the women again. âWhat are they studying over there, anyway?â âFather Paul suggested she read a passage in Proverbs that gives the characteristics of a good wife.â He relaxed at that. âWell, like I said, we agreed.â âThe way I heard it, she is submitting to your authority but doesnât really agree. She has a need to be with children.â I held up my hand to forestall more argument. âAt any rate, both of you have an appointment with Father Paul in the morning. Youâll be discussing this issue with his guidance. Until then I donât want you badgering her about it. OK?â He looked at me a bit angrily. âI donât think itâs right that I canât talk to my own wife if weâre having a problem between us.â âI understand that. But, for Patriciaâs peace of mind, I would ask you not to badger her about it.â He stood up and looked down at me with his fists clenched. âI donât know who you think you are, buster, but if I want to discuss something with my wife, I will. Where do you get off telling me I canât?â I sat and looked at him calmly. I could tell Andy wanted to put the tough guy in his place. Fortunately Father Paul restrained him and invoked Henryâs need for an example of better behavior. That helped me pacify my own ruffled feelings. As I waited, the man standing over me looked around at the people staring at the disturbance. He flushed in embarrassment and wilted into his chair. I looked around at the others and patted the air reassuringly. Then I returned my attention to Henry. âYou realize, I hope, that itâs just this kind of behavior that causes you problems at work.â He nodded and looked away. âI canât tell you,â I said, âwhat not to discuss with your wife. Youâre right. Thatâs not my place. Let me repeat, Iâm asking you â for your wifeâs sake â to refrain from discussing this with her until tomorrow with Father Paul. Will you do that, please?â He nodded his head, not meeting my eyes. âGood. As I said, Patriciaâs studying how to be a good wife to you. Trust in God to make that happen for you both.â I stood and placed a comforting hand on his shoulder as I left. I decided it was time to talk to our prayer warrior, Samantha. The next morning, Father Paul was again in the chapel office when the Vogels arrived for their appointment. He set aside his sermon again and waved the couple into seats. âSo,â he began jovially, âwe are here this morning because Patty wants to go over the issues of her working and of having children. But, before we go into that,â he turned to the woman, âI hear you studied Proverbs 31 with Maria last night. How did it go?â âOh, Father Paul, it was wonderful! I was amazed at how much a good woman rules over her household and family. I particularly liked what it said about helping her husband with all the work she does rather than hindering him.â âGood! Good! Thatâs what I believe this meeting is about.â The priest turned back to Henry. âNow, the ground rules for this discussion. âFirst, each of you will have ten minutes to say what you want without the other interrupting. That means if you hear something you donât agree with, you hold your tongue until the other is finished. The point is that the person speaking needs to feel he or she is being heard concerning whatever he or she says. I mean, itâs important to that person; itâs important the other listens and hears what is being said. Understood?â Both listeners nodded. âSecond, what the speaker shares are facts â not opinions nor judgments â and feeling statements. For example, Henry, you stood over John last night, arguing for your right to talk to Patty. Thatâs a fact. When you did that, I felt scared and a little bit angry. Thatâs a feeling statement. It focuses on my reaction â not on your action. Understand?â They nodded again. âThird, when the speaker is finished, the listener does not respond to the statements, he or she reflects back what the speaker said. In your own words, repeat what you heard. If what you heard isnât what was meant, then the speaker can correct the misunderstanding. The important thing, again, is that the speaker feels heard and understood.â âFinally, you trade sides, the listener becomes the speaker and says âI feel or feltâŚâ statements while the first speaker listens then reflects back what was heard. OK? Any questions?â Henry looked askance at the priest. âAnd this is supposed to help our marriage how?â âThis gives you an opportunity to hear what your wife thinks and feels about important issues in your life. It gives you an opportunity to love her by hearing what she needs and wants so you can provide for her. It gives her an opportunity to tell you how she feels about some decisions youâve made. She still submits to you. However, she needs to be heard.â The young man nodded his understanding and looked at his wife. Patricia reached out and took Henryâs hands in her own and began. She spoke of her need to be around children. She spoke of her need to work with children, especially since she had her degree. She referred to Proverbs 31âs example of a good wife adding to the family wealth through her own efforts so that her husband had time to discuss issues with civic leaders. âDarling, I donât want to take over your place as provider for our family. I know thatâs important to you. Neither do I want to sit at home and do nothing when Iâm able to add to our income and do something I really want to do. Do you understand?â Henry looked at her for a moment then at Father Paul. He clearly fought the urge to have his say. Instead, he removed his hands from his wifeâs and enclosed hers. âHoney, I do love you. What I hear you saying is itâs a good thing for a woman to work to provide for her family and that is what you want to do â particularly working with children. I also hear you saying you want children of our own to care for.â Patricia smiled with tears in her eyes. âYes, dear. Thatâs what Iâm saying.â âWonderful!â Father Paul beamed at the couple. âHenry, you did very well in listening to your wife. Iâm proud of you.â The young man grinned. âThanks, Father. UmmâŚI guess itâs my turn.â Henry spoke for several minutes about his unhappiness at work. He shared about being brought up to take care of his family; it was thought unmanly if oneâs wife worked outside the home. He described his frustration with their indebtedness. He expressed the wish that they hadnât given in to buying things they really couldnât afford. He said he really wanted children, too, and he wanted the two of them to figure out what they could do to afford them. Patricia faithfully reflected back to her husband what he had shared. Then she said she was glad they had been able to fully share with each other. Father Paul beamed at the happy couple. âWell, OK. Youâve accomplished a lot today just by listening to each other. Iâll let you both go to process this more.â The priest stood and made the sign of the Cross over them. With that, the couple stood and went out the door. As Paul followed then out the door to go change, he heard Maria storming in from the living room. He waved the Vogels on to their destination and followed Maria back into the study. The priest seated himself and watched the young Latina. âI do a good job here with our guests â have been for years! Who does that arrogant, self-centered gringo think he is?!â She waved her hands about and gushed indignant Spanish. She turned to the priest, her hands on her hips. âDo you know he had the gall to instruct ME how to do MY job?!â Maria continued to rant in two languages. Finally, she calmed enough to drop into one of the chairs, breathing heavily. Father Paul just sat and looked at her until she settled enough to talk. âThatâŚMAN,â she exclaimed, âis driving me nuts! He seems to think that since he made that plan for improving our service to our clients, he can tell people how to do it!â Father Paul nodded to show his attentiveness. âNow he says he wants me to do inventory of our sports equipment so we can figure out what else is needed.â âAnd?â âFirst, that would take all afternoon, leaving me out of the ride to the saguaro cactus forest. Second, I donât see where itâs his place to give me instructions. I mean, if he wants it done, he can do it! My job is to be with the guests!â âYouâre right, Maria. One good thing about your work is you are always there to serve the guests.â She looked at him sharply. âBut?!â âNo buts. You are a good worker with our guests. I really appreciate all you do for them.â The priest stood and held out a hand to raise the young woman to her feet. He then gave her a fatherly hug and kiss on the forehead. âGo and do more.â She hugged him fiercely and left beaming. Later, Bill came into my office. âMr. OâMalley, could we talk a little bit? Iâd like to make my pitch to become the ranchâs Activities Director.â I set aside the papers I was going over and sat back to listen. He explained about his years of study at the U of A and his successful completion of other fieldwork assignments. He presented his plans for reorganizing the guest activities of the ranch. He also explained how Mariaâs lack of training made her ineffective as Guest Assistant. I heard him out and said I would take his points into consideration. I reminded him he had not yet submitted the final draft of his plan to me or to his instructor at the college. He thanked me for my time and let me return to my papers. That afternoon, the Vogels went riding with Andy, Maria, and Bill Weaver. They returned hot and sweaty but smiling as they chattered about the cactus forest and the prairie dog town. They went off to a shower and nap. After supper, Bill approached the couple as they sat talking. âHowdy, folks.â They looked up, startled then with expectancy. âIâm Bill Weaver, the Recreation student here at the ranch. May I talk with you for a few minutes?â Henry responded, âWeâre in the middle of a discussion. Can it wait?â âItâll just take a minute or two,â the student urged. He held up some papers in his hand. âI have here a program of activities for you to follow during your stay here.â âWeâre already following the advice given to us for our time here.â Bill sneered. âGiven to you by Maria? Iâve been trained for this sort of thing.â âWell, noâŚâ Henry was interrupted by Father Paul standing at Billâs shoulder. âMr. Weaver, could I see you in my office, please? Folks, please forgive the interruption to your talk.â The priest stalked off after the student. âMr. Weaver, what did you think you were doing, talking to the Vogels about an activities program for them?â The young man clenched his fists around his papers. âI was only doing what Iâd been trained for this position. I have reorganized on paper the activities program for the whole ranch. Now, Iâm seeking to offer a program specific for the Vogels.â âWere you assigned such a task?â Bill looked down at the floor. âWell, no. But their case gives me a good opportunity to show what I can do.â âAnd show up Maria as an untrained drudge?â The young man looked up sharply. âShe is untrained! She wouldnât know the first thing about devising a program for this place!â âExcept for what youâve shown her already.â âExactly! Iâm the one who has shown her what she has learned so far.â The priest held up his hand to forestall further comments. âHave you noticed how good she is at just being there for the guests, helping them with whatever they need? While this evening you are trying to push your program on a couple who donât need nor want what you offer. Maybe you should let Maria teach you in this matter. In any case, thatâs the mind-set we want in our Guest Aide or Activities Director, were we to hire you.â He flicked his hand in dismissal of the idea. The young man slumped in his chair in frustration. âI was so sureâŚâ Father Paul nodded. âHave you completed what you have been assigned to do?â The student sighed. âYes, theyâre ready to go over tomorrow.â âGood,â the Head Counselor said. âWe can do that and weâll take into consideration your ideas for improving our work the guests. In the meantime, weâre here to serve God through helping them. Maybe you should observe how Maria does it.â The next morning, Henry came to my office to talk. âHow are things going?â I asked. âWith Patty, fine. Weâve decided she can take a job working with children. We also decided to use her income to pay off our credit card debts.â ââWe decidedâ or you decided itâs OK.â The young man frowned at me. âOK, I decided her having a job would not be a bad thing. When we talked, I agreed she could go ahead and work.â I grinned to reward his honesty. âSo, whatâs up for today?â He pondered a moment. âThings are settled with Patty but there are still the problems at work. I have a boss who rides me about how I do my work and I getâŚerâŚupset about other workers standing around when thereâs work to be done.â I nodded. âI can certainly relate with the last sentiment. I detest seeing people talking instead of working. On the other hand, Iâve learned itâs important for fellow workers to relate well with each other and that requires a certain amount of chit-chat.â âWell,â he replied, âif I was boss, Iâd see there was less chit-chat and more work.â âOh? And how would you do that?â He shrugged. âI donât know. I just think a person shouldnât be paid for time spent talking. He should be paid for the work he does.â âNow, thereâs an interesting concept,â I said wryly. âAnd whatâs wrong with the way your boss wants you to do your work?â Henry grimaced. âHe wonât let me do my job the way I think is best. Instead of telling me what needs to be done and checking the results, he closely supervises how I do the job.â âAnd the problem with that isâŚ?â âHe wants everything done by the book. He doesnât allow for more efficient ways of setting up programs or writing code.â I nodded for him to go on. âI try to explain to him there are better ways to accomplish what the customer wants but he wonât listen.â âMaybe you should offer your own version to the customer.â The software engineer blinked at me. âWhat do you mean?â âWell, if the work you do is better than that offered by your employer, maybe you should start your own company. As your own boss, you donât have to worry about other peopleâs criticism or lack of production.â âYeah, I just have to worry whether I can get work.â âYes, there is that risk. We had to do a lot of marketing before we made a name for ourselves here at San Salvador Dude Ranch. Fortunately, we had support from people God sent to help us.â âOh, really?â Henry sounded interested. âYes. But thatâs a story for another time,â I said. âI think what you have before you are really two issues.â Henry looked at me perplexed. âYes. The first decision you need to make is whether you want to be working for someone else for the rest of your career. Then, if you decide you would prefer to work for yourself, you will need to maintain employment while you prepare for self-employment. That will require you to change your attitude on the job. âYou have definite ideas about how your work should be done. To me, that means youâre primed to work for yourself. Start your own company. Things will be done your way. Convince the market youâre production is better, faster, cheaperâŚno,â I interrupted myself, âI mean, less expensive than that of other companies.â âNow, thatâs an intriguing idea.â My guest sat back to contemplate it. âWhy donât you go somewhere you can think about it?â He stood up, still looking thoughtful. âYe-es, Iâll do that. Iâll talk to you later.â With that, he departed. In the afternoon, Andy entered the hacienda for siesta and noticed the Vogels on the porch swing talking earnestly. After supper, Patricia caught Father Paul as he strolled about the house, chatting with people. She looked mildly distressed. âWhat troubles you, Patty?â âI was just asking Mariaâs opinion about something Henry said and she put me off. She said she was just a dumb Latina and didnât know anything.â Father Paul stopped in mid-stride and turned to the young woman. âIs that what she said, âdumb Latinaâ?â âHer exact words.â The priest frowned and sighed. âWeâve learned here at the ranch that when Maria is struggling with God about something, itâs best not to ask about it. She spouts off about being a âdumb Latinaâ and rants in Spanish so fast nobody understands her. âNow, you couldnât have known that and, even if you had, you might not have known anything was going on. Itâs hard for us to tell sometimes.â âI see. Anyway, Iâd like to talk to you then about what Henry said.â âCertainly,â Father Paul replied and led her to a quiet corner of the sitting room. âFather, Henry was talking about starting his own business.â The older man nodded. âI donât know if I can go along with that.â The young woman wrung her hands unhappily. âAnd what are you unhappy about?â âFirst, itâs the idea of losing his income until the business became successful. But I also donât want to go against my husbandâs desires.â âI see.â The priest folded his hands together in his lap and pondered. He looked at the woman. âTell me about losing his income.â âWell, weâre in debt now. Even with me getting a job, it will take some time to break even. Then having income to live on will be gone if he isnât working steadily. I donât want to quash his dreams but Iâm afraid weâll just get deeper into debt.â Father Paul looked pensive. âAnd how can you support your husbandâs desires when youâre afraid they are wrong?â âExactly. Iâm feeling caught in a pinch.â âDo you trust God to take care of your financial needs?â Patricia inhaled and let it out slowly. âYes, at least intellectually. I have to admit, though, I donât feel secure.â Father Paul nodded. âItâs hard to believe God will care for us when all we see around us is at risk.â He pondered a bit. âLet me ask you something. Do you believe God loves you?â âOh, certainly. I have believed that since I was thirteen.â âOK, good. Do you believe He is able to care for you - no matter how bad things look?â She hesitated. âItâs not a matter of âIs He ableâ. Itâs more like âWill He this timeâ.â âI see,â the priest said. He looked intently at the young woman. âI know itâs your desire to work with and to bear children. Do you know that itâs Godâs plan for you? What I mean is: Have you ever asked God what He wants to do with your life?â Patricia hung her head. âNo. I have to admit I have not. I have always assumed that being good and following my desires â and those of my husband â was enough.â Father Paul nodded in sympathy. âThatâs the way it is with most people. But let me tell you something from my own experience. âGod does have a specific plan for you and your husband and for your family. Once you settle in your heart and mind that you will follow his will no matter where it leads you, you will be able to trust Him to bring His plan about. Then, no matter what does happen, no matter how bad things look, you can trust that He will bring it to a good end. âThe story of Abraham and Isaac is a prime example. God told Abraham he would have a son. Abraham had to wait for many years for that son to be born. When Isaac was maybe twelve years old, God told Abraham to sacrifice his son Isaac to Him. That looked like a breaking of Godâs promise, but Abraham trusted that God would work it out. He had the vision and the promise of God to rely on. Only when Abraham demonstrated his utter trust by obedience did God stop the sacrifice and restore Isaac to his father. âNow, I would suggest that you ask God for His plan for your life and that of your family. Once youâre clear about what He wants to do, you can believe He will accomplish it â as the saying goes â come Hell or high water. All He wants is for you to walk faith-fully with Him.â Father Paul knew from the way Patricia was weeping that his words had touched something deep within her. He laid a comforting hand on her heaving shoulder. She turned and laid her head against his own broad shoulder. He then placed his hand on her head. After a while, her weeping ended and the young woman smiled through her tears. Blowing her nose, she drew in a shuddering breath and slowly let it out. âI havenât felt so comforted since my father died. Thank you.â The priest grinned. âThatâs why this place is sometimes called Salvation Ranch.â She hugged him briefly and rose to leave. She strode toward the doorway where Maria sat in a lounge chair, watching. The employeeâs face held a mixture of displeasure and determination. Father Paul felt a qualm as Maria rose to follow Patricia out the door. Sunday came and, as usual, Andy led a few carloads of employees and their families to church at the San Pedro Valley Christian Assembly. He was an elder there and, that day, took a turn at the pulpit. After the worship and the usual church business, Brother Andy laid his notes and Bible on the lectern and rested his arm on top of them. He glanced around the congregation and his eye fell on Maria. He had been surprised at her request to attend with them that morning. He pushed that thought aside. Today, I want ta talk ta yaâll âbout slavery in thâ job market. I am convinced thereâre two perspectives on thâ Bibleâs message ta slaves. First though, despite our belief that itâs wrong, slavery is allowed for because it was a fact of life. So, the apostles Paul and Peter wrote ta slaves anâ ta their masters âbout how ta live anâ interact with each other in Godâs way. Now, the first perspective I wanna share is thâ one typical fer most preachers today. In thâ Western world, we donâ have slaves. Those who work fer others are called âemployeesâ. So, preachers substitute âemployeesâ fer âslavesâ in Paulâs anâ Peterâs messages. What thâ apostles say is fer employees ta work fer their mastersâŚer⌠bossesâŚas they would work fer thâ Lord Himself. Peter wrote ta encourage slaves ta endure punishment from harsh bosses because thereâs reward in that. But thâ reward i'nât there iffen thâ punishment is deserved. So, yaâll whoâre employees - anâ I know thatâs mostâve ya. Yore expected in Christ ta work hard fer yer employers. Now, thâ seconâ perspective of slavery in thâ market is this: Ta hold a job workinâ fer some-onâ else is thâ same as slavery. Now, bear with me here. I cân hear ya thinking, âIâm not a slave. Ainât nobody says I hafta keep thâ job I got.â OK, ya have thâ right to change jobs, even careers. On thâ other hand, do ya have thâ economic freedom thât would allow ya ta quit where ya work? Let me say this ânother way. If you were guaranteed, say, $64,000 a year in income, no matter what ya did, woulâja keep yer present job? If ya say yaâd quit anâ thâ only reason ya stay is ya canât afford ta quit, then yer an economic slave ta yer job. Now, iffen yore not a slave or employee oâ some company, what are ya? Ya could beân artist or author or some such. Or maybe yer a politician. About thâ only other choice ya have left is ta be a slave-owner, an employer. If youâre not thâ slave in a business, ya must be thâ one what owns it. If yer business is successful, then yer thâ one who makes thâ big bucks⌠anâ pays thâ employees thâ little bucks. I mean, ya gotta make a profit, right? Right! So, whadda we have in thâ job market? We have business owners who invest their capital, who take thâ risk oâ failure anâ bankruptcy, anâ who make thâ big bucks when thâ business succeeds. Then we have thâ employees who work fer thâ business owners. They have thâ steady jobs â as long as business is good anâ there arenât lay-offs or down-sizing. They have thâ hard manual labor or thâ work theyâre assigned â not thâ work they necessarily want. They have thâ other people who are assigned ta work wiâ them â whether they like those people or not. Anâ they have thâ big â I mean, little â bucks they earn. Most often, company employees donâ have near thâ income thâ company owner has. They go home â only at thâ end of their shift - ta their tiny apartments or small house in a blue-collar neighborhood wiâ their half-acre lot anâ small backyard. Maybe their wivesâre home â if they arenât slaving at a job so thâ household can pay all its bills. Thâ business owner has ta go home â any time he wants â ta his big house on a twenty-acre lot. It has a front yard biggerân thâ whole property of his employee anâ a bigger backyard anâ a swimming pool anââŚbut Iâm gettinâ away from myself. So, what am I sayinâ? Iâm sayinâ iffen ya want ta be economically free, iffen ya want ta have a good income anâ a big house, iffen ya want ta spend yer time playinâ golf or writinâ thâ great American novel or helpinâ some charity build a house fer poor people â instead oâ havinâ it built fer you â then ya gotta have your own business. Donât work fer someone else asân economic slave. Be yer own boss. Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 7:20-21, âEvery one should remain in the state in which he was called. Were you a slave when called? Never mind. But if you can gain your freedom, avail yourself of the opportunity.â On the ride home after church and lunch in town, Andy asked Maria to sit in the front seat with him. He asked how she enjoyed the service. She said it was strange; sheâd never been to a Protestant church before. âSo, what made ya want ta come with us today?â She looked out the windshield. âUntil recently, I have always believed what the Church⌠the Catholic churchâŚhas said about Protestants being less than true believers. Of course, your work at the ranch proves otherwise. âLast night, God convinced me that all of youâŚâ At this, she gestured at the line of cars. ââŚare just as faithful as I am. I also realized that itâs OK that the man I want to marry doesnât know it yet.â âOh, ho!â The cowboy crowed and slapped the steering wheel in delight. âAnd who is this lucky fella?â The young womanâs dusky face turned darker. âIâm not ready to say.â She remained silent for the rest of the trip. Later that afternoon, Father Paul celebrated Mass for the Catholics among the community. In his homily, he talked about slavery from the perspective of biblical history. Slavery, in one form or another, has always been discussed in the Bible and I believe it is contrary to Godâs gifts of freedom and prosperity. When Moses revealed the consequences of obedience and disobedience, he promised prosperity for those with the faith to obey Godâs commands and precepts. He promised poverty for those who disobey â a sign of their unbelief. In the book of Judges, we read how the land of Canaan was divided among the Twelve Tribes of Israel. Each tribe divided its territory among its clans and the clans divided their portions among the various families. It was intended that each family would work its land, raise crops and livestock, and build up its wealth. In a broad sense, each farm was a family business and the only âemployeesâ were family members. Of course, some farms were successful, producing plenty of wealth for their families. Some were failures and the families were reduced to owing debts. They were required to sell their land â even enter into the bondage of servanthood. One might say that their capital and their labor became the property of the successful landowners who produced even more wealth for themselves. Now, this was not wrong. But it is obvious that the Lord did not mean this to be the ideal. He desired every family to have its own property and to work its own fields â not those of others. Every fifty years, the Jubilee was intended to return all land to its original families and those in bondage were to be freed. In effect, the next generation of each family was given a chance at creating wealth for itself. Of course, the faithlessness of Israel as a nation led to spiritual bondage and repeated subjugation to various nations. And today, in our âcapitalistâ economy, we donât follow the laws concerning Jubilee. I believe this is wrong. God has given instructions how He wants people everywhere to live. Economically, that means every family â husband and wife, if not the children â ideally works for its own business. At the very least, the family should own part of a business, either through stocks in one or more corporations or through partnership with other families. Working for someone else is less than the best God would have for you. It is very difficult to prosper financially while working for someone else. So, to use the words of St. Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:21, âWere you a slave when called? Never mind. But if you can gain your freedom, avail yourself of the opportunity.â And in Galatians 5:1, âIt was for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.â On Monday, the Vogels met again with Father Paul. Patricia began by sharing about her talk with God. âFather, I am so excited. I believe I have received a vision from God. He has promised me that we will have children and that we will prosper through the business Henry will create. He challenged me to do whatever I can to help Henry make that possible.â âThatâs wonderful! So, now you know God wants you to have children and good fortune.â Henry shared, âFather, between your homily and Andyâs sermon yesterday, I have become convinced that God wants me to create my own business. I believe He wants to help me make it a model of how a company should be run. One of its basic principles will be an idea John expressed to me.â âReally?â Father Paul asked. âYes. He said a person shouldnât be paid for time spent talking. He should be paid for the work he does.â âUmm, I believe you said that.â âDid I? Well, anyway, the idea is to set a wage for each task to be accomplished. The person assigned to do it will be paid for its completion - not for the time spent to complete it.â âThat is an interesting concept.â The young man continued. âWell, anyway. Patty and I discussed this a lot. Itâs obvious I canât quit a paying job until our debts are paid off and we have the resources needed to begin in business. Patty will seek a job working with children and her income will go towards paying off the debts and building our reserves. Meanwhile, I will endure working at my present position. And Iâll do the initial planning for getting my business started. Once, we have the green light from God, Iâll start making my own bids for contracts.â âThat sounds wonderful, you two. It looks to me like you have a wonderful life ahead of you.â With that, Father Paul stood and blessed them and sent them to pack for their return home. Next, the priest met with Bill Weaver and his internship instructor from the university. He returned the papers the student had turned in and talked with them about how Bill had helped the ranch. âYou have made several contributions to our work here. First, you assessed our ability to provide activities for our guests, including taking inventory of all our leisure equipment. Then you planned how our over-all program can be improved in keeping with our goals. We will certainly consider your suggestions and implement those we deem helpful.â Billâs shoulders slumped. âItâs obvious you have decided not to hire me as Activities Director.â The priest nodded. âThat decision has been made. We feel Mariaâs work as Guest Aide covers what we want for now and she has demonstrated the qualities we want. âIâm sorry but you showed you donât quite have the servantâs attitude we want here.â Bill nodded. âYouâre right. Iâll have to work on that. And I thank you for all Iâve learned here.â They all stood and shook hands. Then Bill went to pack up his things. At the car, I gripped Henryâs hand and wished him all Godâs blessing on his future. He grinned. âNow that I have a sense of what God wants for our future, Iâm looking forward to returning to work. Iâll put up with Lance until Iâm ready to outbid him for the same work.â Patricia kissed my cheek. âPlease, give that to Father Paul for me.â I blushed and nodded. Maria, who was seeing the couple off as well, gave me a cool look and grinned knowingly. I decided I needed to talk with her about her own behavior over the past few days. A year later, Patricia sent a newsy letter and a picture of her new baby. The letter said the coupleâs debts were nearly paid off and they were able to lay aside money for Henryâs business even with the baby expenses. |