Eight years

Dear all,

I finally confirmed my suspicions. I had known for years but I loved him dearly and didn’t want to break up just following a gut feeling. What if I was wrong, as he claimed all the way through?

Now I know I was right all along and can therefore leave and find closure. Ever since I found out I’m able to sleep through the night, I’m eating again, I can listen to music after years of walking out of restaurants and shops if they were playing some, I’ve started contacting family and friends again after years of isolation, I groom and pick up nice outfits to wear when I leave the house. It might not sound like great achievements -that’s just what normal people do- but I feel like I’ve been reborn.

You can have him, he’s all yours and I’m being completely honest when I say this. I don’t want him, I’m giving him away gladly, happily. I’m not interested any more. I lost the will to fight for him the moment I saw hard proof. Years of lies, denials, deceiving, verbal and physical abuse, rejection, sexless marriage, silent treatment, isolation, tears, depression, anxiety, psychriatic drugs, played in my mind in seconds. And suddenly, I felt free.

Here’s what you already know about him: he’s VERY handsome (tall, blond, almond-shaped blue eyes, cheeky smile, overweight but i like them fat, a rather small cock you must admit, but you can’t see that when he has his pants on), has a very good job (making six figures yearly), well educated (university degree, a decent family), tries to be witty although he doesn’t always manage, has a wide knowledge about news, politics and sports, it’s a pleasure to chat with him (he usually has something interesting to add), well traveled, open minded and on top of this, he is HUMBLE. I take that was the moment when you fell in love with him: how can a man that is all of that, be humble at the same time? He could be arrogant but he chooses not to. That’s a charming attitude that says a lot about him, isn’t it? You just have to fall for him, irremediably.

Have you ever given a thought at the fact that he has the same effect on other women? He meets lots of them through his job. Attractive, young, nicely groomed, successful, driven, single ladies. And they think after the first encounter, as most people who know him do, that he’s a great man. And many of them are very willing to open their legs for him. Completely understandable, don’t you agree? If I was, if you were, why wouldn’t they? He can’t help it, it just happens. It’s always fulfilling to get attention from attractive members of the opposite sex. It reassures you, me, him, everyone. We are humans. We all want to be liked by others.

You might think that you are the one who will make him stop fucking around because you are special and can give him everything he needs to be happy but I don’t think your expectations are accurate. He needs the female attention and admiration. He has been receiving it since he was a teenager and he’s addicted to it. It’s a boost, a high, a trip for him every time it happens. Every time a new woman falls for it, his ego is newly fed. Ego? Didn’t we agree he’s a humble human being? Oh well…

You could call, text, email him one hundred times a day telling him how hot, clever, handsome and amazing he is but those would be compliments coming from one and the same woman. That wears off after a short time. It’s much more rewarding getting it said by different females, you must agree. But of course, feel free to give it a try.

And then you’ll also have to deal with his online sex addiction. The successful women he meets usually don’t walk through life sending their nudes to everyone. They have a reputation that has to be taken care of. But he LOVES sexting, perhaps because of the size of his cock, perhaps because it’s less work than real sex, who knows? Where do you find women willing to have online sex? In dating sites mostly. You’ll have to put up going every night to bed by yourself while he stays downstairs giving his mobile camera a hard time. But you know, at least he’s at home.

I would be thankful to you if you had contacted me to enlighten me and open my eyes about what was going on. It would have ended up the agony much sooner. Still I wish you luck if you decide to go ahead and try with him. You’ll need it.

As for me, I’ll recover very soon, don’t worry. It would be good if I could get the money that is due to me after eight years of marriage but he was very careful and made periodically bank transfers to a bank account on his solely name. Still, I’ll make a come back like the phoenix.

Sincerely

Vrhovski