Dealing with the C word

WHY did this happen to me? That's what she is asking now. My closest and very best friend of over 40 years has been diagnosed with Lung Cancer. It has rocked her world and the world of all around her. At 55, she never thought she would be facing this now. She lost her husband to cancer six years ago, now her? Can they do treatments, has it spread,will it work, how long does she have if it don't work? So many questions. She has lost the fight already, given up, expecting the worst. How can we as friends and family help her through this? I recently had a mass removed myself but it was not cancerous. Why was mine not but hers is? She has one daughter that just moved back here from out of town but she has to work and cannot do as much as she would like to. Friends are stepping in but it is very hard. I have watched her over the last few months fade away to a shell of the person she used to be. She started getting sick last June and the doctors treated her for allergies, then acid reflux, then asthma. It wasn't until one dr. saw her coughing up blood that they sent her to a cancer doctor to be checked. What if they had checked sooner? Would it have made a difference? I feel anger, hurt, sadness, frustration, guilt and I can't begin to understand what she is feeling. I am a Christian and I know God hears our prayers and I know he is holding her in his loving arms through all if this but it is hard for her to see that right now. She is finding it hard to pray. When death comes knocking it sure makes you stop and think. All the (Things) in the world don't mean nothing when it comes down to it. No amount of money can change a cancer diagnoses or even determine if the treatments will work. What if everybody lived their life as if they only had a short while to live? can you imagine how differently we would treat those around us and how unimportant some things would become. I bet we would spend more time with the people we love and less time bickering and fussing. More time watching each other, less time watching TV and playing video games and such. We'd take time to say I Love You and tell others how much they mean to us. Suddenly, the things we fought so about are unimportant.