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Drama: February 29, 2012 Issue [#4907]

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 This week: What is it about a drama queen?
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“Crying is all right in its own way while it lasts. But you have to stop sooner or later, and then you still have to decide what to do.”
― C.S. Lewis

“Don't cry over someone who wouldn't cry over you.”
― Lauren Conrad

“Weeping is not the same thing as crying, It takes your whole body to weep, and when it`s over, you feel like you don`t have any bones left to hold you up.”
― Sarah Ockler, Twenty Boy Summer

“Eventually something you love is going to be taken away. And then you will fall to the floor crying. And then, however much later, it is finally happening to you: you’re falling to the floor crying thinking, “I am falling to the floor crying,” but there’s an element of the ridiculous to it — you knew it would happen and, even worse, while you’re on the floor crying you look at the place where the wall meets the floor and you realize you didn’t paint it very well.”
― Richard Siken


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Letter from the editor

Ever watch The Bachelor? Drama Queen City! I love the show, but I am so done will all the poor, poor, pitiful me crying! It is logical that if only one woman can make it to the end, that many more won't and that there will be tears....invested emotions and all that, but why so many? Because it is good TV. It gets ratings. Why does it, though? I think the women are over-reacting. I become impatient with them...but then again, I watch it. Silly me?

There is nothing wrong with a good cry. It needs to be an important reason to cry if because of nothing else, it needs to be worth the bleary-eyed, head-achy, read-nosed results. Otherwise it is pure sillyness to add that much insult to the agony that inflicts it in the first place. Kind of like hitting yourself while you're down.

I'm not talking the 'love of my life has died' crying or the 'my mom/dad/child/spouse/best friend is dead/dying' grief. I am talking the moments when we cry the great heart-wrenching, crocodile tears of the sort that nearly drowned Alice. The times when, in the moment, the world is ending, life can just barely -- maybe-- go on which when look back on many years heance, we almost wonder why we were crying in the first place! Those times when we look back and in retrospect was almost, (no in all reality, was) funny.

On a show like The Bachelor, the truth is that whomever goes home wasn't liked as much as whomever stayed. It isn't about someone not being good enough, not being worthy, not having done something right or wrong or enough...just a choice or preference basis on usually less than enough input. For example, last week was hometown dates. After one of them, one girl said she was a bit worried. Turns out she was right and she went home. I found the 'what the (heck) went wrong' diatribe to be over the top and while I'd liked her all along, lost tons of respect for her in that moment. Love's a two way street, you can't force it--it is there or it isn't. It doesn't make you less of a person unless you determine that it does. Sad.

Yet this is good TV. Because we like folks (other than ourselves of course) to suffer and cry so we can feel superior. Such a breed we are. Brats, I think. *grin* But the point is just as people can rally around the dissing 'bad girl' or the one everyone loves to hate, and serve up lots of (again) superior thinking that if he picks 'that one' he'll get what he deserves, we react on an emotional level, and that is what sells TV advertising space.

We don't want everything to go perfectly. We want bumps in the road, train-wrecks, and tears so that at long last when we reach our happy ending we actually appreciate it more than had everything gone smoothly. Which vacations do you really remember in the long run? The one with the car trouble, the lost wallet or the bad sunburn is the one you remember with laughter years down the road. Nature of the beast and all that. The bad stuff is viewed along with the good and that balancing act is what makes it memorable. We have a yardstick to measure the good and the bad by which then makes the good all the more excellent and the bad that much either more horrific or maybe not quite so terrible as we had originally thought.

That is why we have potholes, stumbling blocks, arguments, brick walls and catastrophes....so that our heroines can appreciate the good guy in the end. So that the happy endings are appreciated, earned even. When we watch shows like The Bachelor or read romances it is only natural that we compare the essences of them to our lives and pick out what we have (that is better) or what we want (but don't yet have.)

Seeing others be miserable makes us feel better about ourselves even if we don't want to --ever-- admit it! Seeing others reach a happily ever after reminds us that we do have our own variation of that thus making us feel good. Win-win.


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