I find I "train" my husband all the time. I didn't use to, and he finally told me that sometimes he felt unappreciated because I didn't acknowledge the little things sometimes. So maybe she is training you, or maybe she's just appreciating you. *shrug* I hope it's appreciation--these past few entries have made it sound like you need some.
i'm sorry to hear about your problems. from what i've read of you and from what we've spoken of, i do not think you're a cheapskate. if you have the money you have always seemed generous. you've always seemed generous in other ways as well. it's not right how she's jerking you around regarding the money.
i think it's a girl thing. i can see myself getting into a similar fight with austin. just insert any topic here and it'll be the same scenario. wish i had a solution but i can hear pain in your voice and i'm sorry.
did i already comment on this? i felt like i did, but now i can't find it in my email history, so i'll give you the abridged version of what i thought i said.
1. logic doesn't "not work" on women.
2. some women decide to react illogically to some issues.
3. it's your hair.
4. the thought that you would entertain wearing a haircut you hate because you're scared not doing so would actually, literally (not playfully) affect your relationship warrants serious evaluation.
5. women only start nitpicking about things like this when they feel sure they have the upper hand and can get away with it.
i trust your feelings about jackie, but i also trust your earlier remark that maybe you're spoiling her. to a bystander, this relationship does not sound like one between equals. cut your hair, and use that as a jumping-off point to start insisting on some equity.
If your hair was short when she began dating you, then she has no right to complain about it now. If long hair is so important to her, then she should have only dated guys with that particular length.
Say, "I'll grow my hair out if you'll stop wearing eye makeup."
Be careful to explain to her that you think she's equally attractive with or without makeup, and that since it really makes no difference to you, you guys might as well save your collective money.
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So, I'm going to conclude that all of this is your fault, grim, and your jokingly mentioning that it's all one big conspiracy theory is just a ploy to cover up the fact that it is all one big conspiracy and you know it.
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