L'aura del Campo

Toxicity: are we all toxic... am I...

Are we all toxic?

I know at least three friends who may consider themselves so.

One can't keep friends. One can't make friends. One can't befriend himself.

All have been abused; all have been traumatized.

I know that people have cut me out of their lives. I have not always been as kind as I should be. But knowing how even an apology can bruise... I let the past be past. I let it be.

Not everyone is toxic though.

There seem to be genuinely good people out there who heal rather than harm. They are a true blessing as well as truly blessed.

Although I have been traumatized I don't know how to help friends to work through their own traumas. I'm not even sure what to say at times. Mostly I just acknowledge that I have read what they've shared and say nothing. I suspect most of the time they are not looking for advice.

And what advice can someone who hasn't been through similar pain give?

I'd give each a hug if I could.