thoughts, words, deeds

sticky webs

“Sometimes love is nothing more than a sticky web; illusions spun from clever minds and bitter hearts.” ― Nicole Lyons

"Good God, no. The lies we tell other people are nothing to the lies we tell ourselves.”
― Derek Landy, Death Bringer

What's worse--- telling someone the truth and hurting their feelings or lying to them to spare their feelings?

I personally would rather someone told me a truth than a lie. I would rather hear truth in such a way that it wasn’t cruel. That’s one of my rants—honesty doesn’t mean cruel, and when people say something in such a way that it was said just to hurt, that’s not being honest.

I think in such an instance, I would rather keep quiet than lie or hurt someone with an unpleasant truth. For example, there are things I don’t tell my mother, true things that would hurt her because they are behaviors that are ingrained for all her life, and even though they hurt me, I love her enough that I don’t want her to be hurt by something she couldn’t change. Because of that, sometimes I refuse to answer a question or to say anything at all because I don’t lie, but I can’t say that truth that would hurt her.

Sometimes, when my blood sugar was high or I was generally irritable, I have said it. And every time I do, I feel cruel, and I don’t like that feeling. So I avoid it.

Love is giving the ability to hurt us to someone who we trust not to.