Evolution of love

Be like a child

Most of us are caught in the small part of life and miss seeing the whole. Without leaving our room, we want to see the vastness of the sky. We live a part of the whole and that part is our pattern, our positionality, our ego. Thus, we limit our brain to our patterns. We limit our brains to limited paradigms. To drop our shallow way of seeing and to see the whole is managing our life effectively. To take that leap, one has to have a childlike perspective and not a childish perspective.
Life is a thrilling mystery; it is vast and limitless. But we get limited by our concepts, ideas and beliefs. We have not learnt to observe our life, and hence we are lost in our limitations.

We have to learn how to perceive, how to look, how to see. A child sees innocently. To be innocent is to be open. Can we be open in our perception? When we look at a flower, we don’t actually see the flower. The perceiver pollutes the perception. With strong likes and dislikes, the person looks at a flower. When that happens, the emphasis is on one’s likes and dislikes and not actually on the flower. As one grows, one’s mind has rigid frames of like and dislike, opinions, dogmas, fears, conflicts and greed. So one’s experience of the external world is a product of one’s internal mind.

We learn through books. We go to school and college and learn. We collect a lot of concepts, words and then we get prisoned by what we know. Then, when we “see and know” something in the outer world, there is a struggle. The struggle is to see and know in the light of what I know in my past. The present should fit into my past. So what I know, from my past, is it more valuable than what I see in the present? A childlike perception is freeing oneself from that background and hence inwardly be free and from that freedom to see.

Apply this in the field of relationships, at the office or home. One has an image of one’s life partner or boss. This image is a product of one’s conclusions, opinions, and with that mental image one relates to one’s partner or boss. One does not connect to the other and instead connects to the other through the image of the other. So one’s struggle is to see the other fit into one’s image of one’s partner or of oneself. This is a complicated way of living. A childlike perception has no image and then its innocence comes in touch with the object. The struggle for seeing that one’s image is validated is not there and hence no pain. By this one can relate better and not be a victim and be bitter.

Be like a child, open, innocent and then with that perception you will see something new. The ability to see something new is a product of one’s inner being, free from one’s past. Past will exist but will not limit a free perception. Then you will look at your projects, freely, openly, and something new happens in the way you look at the problem in the office or work or any situation.