Evolution of love

‪Equality_Begins_At_Home‬

I just read this story on how a daughter was raised and decided to share.
My Dad always sounds it in my ears "Simi, you must be tough. Being girlish and being ladylike is not an excuse for weakness".This he still says to I and my sisters till this very day.
All the children were raised to do the "masculine" as well as the "feminine" tasks.
My sisters and I started winding a 15KVA generator as soon as we got one. I learnt how to wash a car (internal and external) before the age of 16.
I started learning driving immediately after secondary school. My Dad told me that before he allows me drive out independently, that I must learn to change car tyres.
I remember I was forming ajebutter and my Dad said to me "If you are driving on a lonely highway and you need to change your tyre, what would you do? You will have to get down and change it.... that's the common sense thing to do. It's a survival skill for drivers.
My brother? He started washing the dishes as soon as he could reach the sink and handle the dishes.
He started cooking simple meals before the age of 10. He started washing his socks and under wears before the age of 7.
He started handling his laundry before the age of 11, when he had to go to boarding school.
In my house, the rule was (still is) that anyone who eats must be able to get involved in the kitchen, when required.
My father tells me I can be president, not first lady. There is nothing wrong with being a first lady, but there's also nothing wrong with being the husband of the president.
Thus, if you tell your son that he can be president, you should also tell your daughter that she can be president.
The hidden but significant psychology behind this is that telling your daughter that she can be president pushes her to be great, while telling her that she can be a first lady pushes her to aspire to marry a great man, and probably reduces the needed inspiration to aspire to exercise her maximum potentials.
We need not teach our girls to believe that the best they can be is to exist under the success of a man, their husbands.
It is disfavor to humanity to raise your son with the impression that he is better than other females..
Raise your daughters to understand that they are not inferior to males.
Teach your sons to be as domesticated as your daughters, and push your daughters to attain financial independence as much as you push your sons.
This way, we will raise a less entitled: and more responsible generation, equipped with all vital survival skills, and with less handicaps.
Charity begins at home, not in the offices or work places.
AND

Go tell it to the world, over the hills and everywhere
"For at least a generation now – especially in urban India and educated middle-class families – we have raised our girls to be confident and fight for their rights. But we seem to have ignored an entire generation of boys who were not told anything about how their sisters were changing. While we gave our daughters new ideals and role models, no one bothered to tell their brothers that they ought to change too!
Girls drive two-wheelers and cars. It is considered an essential life skill. You can often hear dads proudly proclaiming that their daughters can drive very well indeed and they don’t need a father/husband/brother to take them anywhere.
However, boys were never taught that cooking is an essential life skill. You don’t see parents proudly saying that their son can cook and doesn’t need a mother/wife/sister to feed him (and keep him alive!).
We don’t tell our sons that it is okay for them to be paid less than their wives or stay at home to take care of the kids while their spouses continue to work.
Men want to marry a working woman (in theory) but are completely unprepared for the practical reality of a marriage where both partners work. It means doing the dishes or supervising the maid when your wife has a report to complete, it means taking half the day off to take care of your sick son because your wife has an important presentation. It may even mean giving up a promotion or moving to a new city for your spouse’s career.
Because we don’t tell our sons all this, they continue to expect that their wife will automatically give up the job/promotion/transfer in favour of the family whereas they will never have to take a step back from their own careers.
Boys are still raised the way they were for the last many generations.
Women are upset that dinner– and the house, kids, in-laws, maid– is still their responsibility while the men don’t know what they did wrong. After all, they ‘allow’ their wives to work, what more do they want?
*Let us not only empower women, but also prepare men to set their expectations right*.