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Mary's Lake and rant about sex and stereotypes.

Mary's Lake

Sun slants from southern climes;
geese break to cool north winds;
they rest at the quiet end of the lake,
mouths closed, as silent as the fish
that will not bite for the boys today.

Leaves respond to Autumn's touch,
giving up cold kingdoms in white sky,
fall to ripples and the mud
where still the warmth resides,
denies the coming frosts.

Summer's dust and dross
have journeyed south
while here Orion's lights
gleam higher every night
and every day's a gift.

Geese slumber on the rippled waters;
the fisherboys still fish.

© Kåre Enga 2007 [164.325] 2007-10-27

Sex as power and control:

Rant on stereotypes

I enjoyed the movie Life as a Home (nice hugs) until I realized how homophobic it was. Here every character is boinging whoever; but ... when 'boy' has a tryst with a neighbor (the olde gay-for-pay), it is handled very different from his pimp-daddy (also a teenager) boinging his girlfriend's mother. I was very annoyed once I realized this.

Same with Matilda. Funny from a ten-year-old's perspective, but it manipulates with the stereotypes of 'slimy' used car salesman, blond 'bimbo', female shot-puter 'mean-matron-from-hell'.

The images that Hollywood uses and how it portrays marginalized people is important. I know better from personal experience, but most folks in an audience do not ... and children are inculcated with cultural taboos and mean-sprited values this way.

Neither was outright racist, which brings another point to mind. I just finished reading Iced by Jenny Siler where the protagonist is struggling with childhood images of her father's liaison with a Blackfeet woman in white-on-white Montana (a back story, but significant). I recommend the book. Most characters are well-fleshed-out.

Symbols used for SEX: a GC rant

If it is okay for a friend and fellow blogger to post
( . ) ( . ) ??
(Why not. I'm not offended.)

Is it okay for me to use 8===> ??? or <==69==> ???? or ( qp ) ?????

8==8=>==> is TMI for most folks.

(( )) (( )) is someone's wet dream.

( . ) ( . ) ( . ) could be too-much-of-a-good-thang ... [some guys and gals DO have an extra nipple]

( .) ( .) (. ) (. ) brings to mind "Here's looking at you, kid."

Would ( ) ( ) be acceptable in Oklahoma? For men they have towel dances where the only thing worn is a scrap of cloth held by the hand or held up by the ... 8==

I ask the above because American culture has different standards for sex depending on who is 'doing it' to whom (mutual is a concept foreign to the Americas where power and control are key factors). For instance, at one time interracial sex would never have been allowed on screen or in books and still is not accepted in most places.

Also, references to females, who traditionally have been degraded, are more acceptable than any reference to a man.

There is no genre here at WDC for sex. Erotica, yes. Gay/Lesbian, yes. And one can make it GC or XGC, but I suspect that a Gay/Lesbian E rated story would not be acceptable anymore than those banned children's books where the child has two mommies or two fathers. Hopefully I'm wrong. Note: there is no V rating for violent and American culture is more tolerant than the Swedish (for instance) on this.

In other words, "normal" sex merely merits a rating change and then hardly. Anything else has a special label. It's like American (by cultural default) = WHITE American at one time, while everyone else was hyphenated: Afro-American, Hispanic-American, Native-American, et cetera.

BLOGVILLE

Sad to read that Scottiegazelle house deal fell through. I was so looking forward to swinging a deal for a 36' slightly-broken-in-by-four-children motor home.

Thomas is judging a karaoke contest in the rôle of Simon. Personally, I think being Paula would garner less flack ...

bugzy is baaaccck!! will have a blue month tomorrow, God willing and the otters don't mug her ... errrr ... hug her. Speaking of hugs, she has a great, but tearful, entry about foster care. Bugzy is in British Columbia, but we have/had otters here in Kansas too: http://www.ksr.ku.edu/libres/Mammals_of_Kansas/lutra.html

Ski -ster describes the office he works in in "Invalid Entry" . Isn't it interestinng how the places we work in and live in (especially when we design them) say something about us. Makes me want to visit and knock on his window!

Kansas: 65º,sunny and warming up.

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