Writings in the Sand

Choose Each Other

This song is bound to become THE wedding song of the year. It touts traditional fidelity and optimism about the married state. The line about not being afraid to say “I do” is going to be very popular with about-to-be brides as they plan the music for the big day. Of course, the culture has told us for years that men fear marriage, but I am not sure that is true. After all, for every woman who marries a man, there’s a man willingly marrying a woman.

The title “Carry You Home” and the sentiment behind it says everything about a relationship. “I will carry you home”. Home becomes where you are together. Home is now a place you find in your partner. Home is in your love's eyes. Home is the way your hand reaches for your spouse’s hand in the middle of the night for that brief moment when you both wake slightly, then finding comfort in each other’s presence, fall back into a secure rest.

There’s one line in this song though that says more than all the others.

“I choose us every time”.

There are lots of people and influences that can divide loyalties in a marriage - parents, kids, culture, careers - but the successful couples put the marriage first. It’s going to sound really unreasonable in this age of self-love, self-sufficiency and selfies, but it means preferring your spouse above everything, including yourself.

I hear you say “Wait a minute! What about my needs? “.

Here’s the crazy thing - if both partners are putting the best interests of the other person above their own in love and honor and respect, then both partners have a strong ally and all their needs met. Choose each other, every time.