The definition of love

Sometimes we all have come across this delusional idea, that we can do anything for a particular person. That particular person makes you feel better, or makes you happy. So let’s take a moment to ask ourselves a question that has baffled scientists and magicians alike; what is love?

A lot of people have different hypothesis regarding this particular topic. Some feel that love is a point where one soul meets the other. Others say it’s a feeling you get in the gut, where butterflies roam around and everything seems all perfect. But at the end of the day, young or old, able or disabled, smart or dumb, sly or honest; everyone has come across a feeling called love. Sometimes people say that love is something that happens at first sight, while others say it takes time to grow and mature. I even came across people who believe love is physical, where sustaining your bodily needs broadens love. Like all the other thousands of people before me who have ‘successfully failed’ to answer this simple question, maybe I might not give you a correct answer, but what I CAN tell you is that love is something that isn't describable.

We all have come across a particular someone who asks us ‘why do you love me?’ Trust me on this I have come across this a lot of times, but the only answer I could come across was “I don’t know.” I know stupid as it might seem but if somehow she is reading this she’d know. Hence coming back to the topic of describing love, which is very complicated. Love is kind of a mixture of different feelings. Some people fail to fully grasp and take care of all of them. In short, love is different for everybody. It’s about commitment, it’s also a responsibility. It’s a sensation where your thoughts have no limits. It’s a time of being unleashed by all those chains that have held you down all this while. It’s kind of like a drug; at first you thought you wouldn't need it but when you do get a whiff of it, you cannot stop.  As I am writing this down I am constantly being reminded of that ‘special person’. Trust me when I say this but I never thought I’d be able to love someone. I felt I did, to be honest I ‘thought’ I fell in love twice but it never seemed destined to work out in the first place. There is something in common with both of the incidents that occurred in my life; they all were one sided.

Yes, everyone knows one sided love doesn't work out but the question is why doesn't it? The answer to the question is it was never love in the first place. Yes it’s that simple. Maybe all those dreams you had of your ‘partner’ is shattered at this very moment and maybe some of you might even think I’m on drugs but this is a truth we all have to get over.  This phenomenon is something called infatuation, where the feeling is more major than a crush but is a minority in front of love. If you want to measure it on a scale of 10, love is 10 whilst crush and infatuation is 3 and 4 respectively.  So what happened to the other scales? Well to answer that we have to take a look at all the other things we are over-looking while ‘being in love’. Love isn't a physical attraction; it’s actually the primal stage of falling in love. This is something we all come across every single day, something called a ‘crush’. Soon after the physical attraction, you start interacting with that person and if you do like her that’s the time when your mentality match and that’s when you’re attracted by his/her personality. And if you get over all of this and actually literally like the person, as in judging on her physical or mental attributes you kind of like her. Sorry to disappoint you but this is not love. This is something a little bit more major than crush. Now let’s concentrate on your supposed ‘love of your life’, in short let’s bring the spotlight onto her. The thing about why most of the people actually fall in love and it ends in a total disaster is mainly because they misinterpreted the feeling. You sometimes have to take into account what the other person feels, rather than concentrating on your own self-centered feelings. This is something we all fail to take into account. Sometimes we have to establish a mentality where we should be happy when our ‘partner’ is happy. This brings us to the point where you have to understand that it’s not a one way street; it’s a two way street where both of the streets are heading in the same direction. So let’s think that you really like or you think you love a particular person but you aren't sure where he/she loves you back or isn't happy with you or the efforts you are making in order to make her/him happy. A lesson to whoever is having trouble or cannot make the other person happy; learn to let go and adapt. Sometimes we all have to say sorry for the stupidest of things even if it doesn't make sense. It helps to move on from incidents rather than fighting over it. So sometimes let go of your egos to make your ‘special someone’ happy.

Be there to support that person, in short be his/her shoulder to cry on. Make her/him smile and make them cry at the same time because people are remembered for the good times plus the bad times you make them go through. And why am I going through advice about relationship, rather than talking about ‘love’? Well this is mainly because you have to make the other person fall for you too when you fall for that person first. And when you both fall for each other that is something my friends called infatuation.

Cutting the story short, I’ll come down to the benchmark description of love; it’s indescribable. It’s a sense of responsibility and a feeling of having an aim in life. Ever felt like not having an aim in life? Then you should definitely go out and meet someone. Because a special someone can do wonders in your life. Trust me when I say this, no one will come to you and tell you that you fell in love. This is something that will happen only once and it’s a feeling towards someone you’ll never feel for anyone except for that particular person.

In short love is the most mistook disease that everyone catches but one which happens only once. It’s a feeling that will take your breath away and one that will keep you thinking about the surprises in life all the time. Love is actually something that is very mystical and as everyone says, it’s magical.