The Power of Yes

“Yes” can be agreement and acceptance without regret or hesitation: you know that something is true, and so you say Yes. When we make a Decision, it is a yes. When we find a possibility that leads us in a Situation to the Absolute Truth, which is the best possible outcome for that situation and all the members of the Sphere of people in the situation, we can easily say yes. We can make that decision, which is a breakthrough moment. It’s a moment where we are in Now: not the past, and not the future. It is a breakthrough. We have eliminated all the possibilities which do not point us to the best possible outcome, and so it is a breakthrough: we have found the Truth.

So, the moment when you say yes is a breakthrough moment. You would like all of your decisions to be aligned with the Absolute Truth, the best possible outcome. For although we are not perfect, we can find ourselves in situations where we can say yes to ourselves and all of those engaged in the situation with us. Sometimes agreement means acceptance, which is what we want. We want to accept those in situations with us for who they really are, not who we wish they were. If they were only who we wish they were, then they would be only a model, or an imperfect representation of the real truth, the Absolute Truth, which always means the best possible outcome to a situation.

Now, people aren’t completely merged or anything like that in every situation, so saying yes to someone may mean saying that we agree that they are free to find their own best outcome for the situations they are involved in, which really don’t involve us, except to the extent we are Aware that their situation is important to them, and the best possible outcome for that situation is important to them. We wish them the best, if we truly love them. So with acceptance we let them be free to be themselves, and involve themselves in situations in which we are not really engaged: we are not true stakeholders in the outcome, except that we hope the situation turns out best for them, and they are happy. Acceptance and agreement lets them be free to be themselves: we show true Respect for them in these situations. And if needed, we do what we can to wish them the best and maybe even help them a little, as much as we might do so without truly becoming a stakeholder and someone whose agreement is absolutely necessary for there to be a best outcome for both of you. We accept their decisions with Faith and Trust they have pointed themselves in the right direction to be in alignment with their very own best.

So, saying yes can mean two things at once: we accept them for who they really are, and we hope for the best for them. When we are involved in a mutual situation, where we share a common Sphere, then saying yes means we have reached full agreement that we have a breakthrough Decision, one that points us to the best possible outcome for both of us, and really anyone else who is engaged in that Situation. For spheres in situations can be large or small. It might just be you, or the other individual. It might be both of you, and no one else. It might be you, them, your loved ones, their loved ones, and other people who are stakeholders in the situation. It’s harder to find full agreement and the Absolute Truth, and reach a breakthrough decision when there are many people involved, many stakeholders. That’s not only a win, or just a win-win, or even a win-win-win: that is truly a moment of Now where everyone wins, and finds the best possible outcome for everyone. That is like a win multiplied to the power of Seven!

So let’s instead focus on a common issue, finding just the win-win. Can you find it every time? Maybe, if you truly love someone, they love you, you have mutual respect and trust, and you are Honest with each other. Maybe, if you truly accept them for who they are, and likewise they accept you for who you are. Then maybe you can always say yes. Now that is real power, when you can always say yes, and really mean it: that you agree the decision is pointed to the best possible outcome in any situation for both of you. Of course, it means letting them be free and truly accepting them when they make their own decisions which really don’t involve you, except that it might affect petty things such as Resources. If they say yes to purchasing some nice clothes to wear for example, or going out to dinner with another friend, then of course there are less resources to share between you two for the situations you have in common, which also take some resources, whether those be time, money, effort, health, entertainment, arts, and so on and so forth. There are so many kinds of resources. What’s really important is that the resources they choose to expend or invest in for their own situations do not affect you, and you are the one who has to have that Perspective, you are the one who has to accept them for who they are and truly respect them when they involve themselves in situations or with other people that don’t really include you. That’s part of acceptance and agreement. That’s part of the Power of Yes: being able to have that neutral perspective which allows you to not only accept them for who they are, but allows them to accept you for who you are without Fear.

Back to the win-win: when you can honestly and openly say yes, you have expressed acceptance and agreement, and exercised your real power, the power to find the truth.
So I suppose the challenge for a win-win is to find someone who you can really accept, and who accepts you. To find someone who truly respects you, and trusts you. To find someone with whom you can share real Commitment, that you are both committed to finding the best possible outcome for mutual situations, and also letting them be themselves for situations that don’t really involve you (except for petty resources). The more petty the resources can be, the better. Poor people as well as rich people can create perspectives where the Information about resources becomes such that the resources are viewed as petty: they are truly no problem. And so we see how poor people can be happy and in love, and rich people can be unhappy and out of love: when they are jealous of the attention or other kinds of resources that their partners expend or invest in other situations. They become jealous that they are not considered a stakeholder in those situations, and they try with all their might to put their foot in the door, express their negative opinion, or even try to say No. They don’t want to allow the other person to participate in those situations which don’t really include them. You can see how “clingy” this perspective really is, and what a negative perspective it really is, for they don’t really accept the other for who they really are, they don’t really respect them, and they don’t trust that the other person’s wishes to be happy will also create happiness for themselves. They are in the position of not really wishing the best for the other person. They are having a perspective where they don’t agree, even when they aren’t really involved. They are trying instead to exercise the Power of No. The power of no really only leads to separation, instead of the togetherness they might think they are seeking. The power of no only leads to inhabiting a sphere with the other person where unconditional love is impossible.

So, don’t settle for someone who likes to say no, or can’t really accept you for who you are, and want your dreams to come true. Don’t settle for sharing a sphere with someone where the resources are always substantial, instead of sometimes petty when you aren’t involved in their situations or they aren’t involved in yours. Don’t settle for someone who is jealous or insecure: it means they have never really accepted themselves for who they really are. It means they don’t know the difference between substantial resources and those that are petty: their information and awareness is lacking the truth. It means they don’t respect you or really trust you, and then what happens next is they will stop being Open with you, and you won’t always be open with them. Real shared commitment to the Absolute Truth will wither. The situations you share will have a lack of positive Harmony too. That can’t be what you really want, right?

So, find within yourself the Power of Yes. Find within yourself self-love, self-respect, and self-trust, that you may then extend love, respect, and trust to the other persons in your life, especially those that you say you love the most. Find the power of yes, and accept yourself for who you really are, and then accept these others for who they really are. Be allowing, in the sense that you don’t interfere with their dreams, sometimes even dreams that don’t really include you. Find yourself able to say yes, and reach those breakthrough moments when it really counts, when saying yes means you agree the decisions at hand are pointed to the Absolute Truth. May you find someone with whom you can both always say yes to each other. I wish you the best, truly

bill

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