Forgiveness' Plea 2

And the master in the living matters said:

Nobody can teach us how to live, for nobody really knows what there is within our hearts but we ourselves.
When luck is on my side, I learn as much as a very little lesson a day and then I feel a glorifying sense of belonging to my own life. I belong to myself. I am where I am because I want to. I am an independent and individualist human who seeks other people's company because I like or love them.
I think we all should be able to know why we stick to some people, those individuals that, whether little by little or all in a sudden, become the most important beings in our lives.
Then there come the limits. Now, they are not so easily defined and much less easily placed. This task is often painful and takes its tolls on relationships. When limits are much needed, the person who has to place them usually acts as if they were firemen, but smoke blurs the limits even more and thus they are exceeded without the people involved being much aware of this situaion.
It is not easy to be the one who says STOP! It is not easy to be the one who says AS IT IS, THIS RELATIONSHIP IS NOT MAKING ANY GOOD TO ANYONE, SO WE SHOULD RECONSIDER A COUPLE OF THINGS AND PONDER ABOUT OUR ROLES TO IT, SO THAT WE ARE ABLE TO ADDRESS WHERE IS THE SOURCE OF CONFLICT IN A SENSIBLE WAY AND WHAT ARE OUR EXPECTATIONS ABOUT IT, WHAT WE WANT TO MAKE IT BE. I DON'T THINK THAT PULLING TO OPPOSITE SIDES HELPS MUCH. SO, WE ALSO MUST BE STRONG IF IT TURNS OUT THAT WE WANT DIFFERENT THINGS AND CAN NO LONGER ACCEPT WHAT WE HAVE AS HEALTHY OR REWARDING IN ANY SENSE. FORCING THINGS WILL ONLY HURT US.
And I am not only referring to romantic relationships, since it is usual among relatives and friends that they go through periods in their relationship when it seems to be impossible that they get along well again.
Anyway, it is important to be able to decide whether we want to keep in touch with our relationships and how. It is very important that we are able to identify the source of the problem and try to discuss it as sensibly as possible. Last but not least, it is of prime importance that mutual respect be always our common goal above any other stance.
Of course no one ever said it was easy, but as far as we try to see in the other a human being struggling with their own inner turmoil with our eyes wide open and avoiding any justification to our discontent on the grounds that the other does not meet our affective requirements, we perhaps will be ready to accept the change and maybe the challenge to grow together with our energy set into a future relationship, which might even be very different to what we initially thought before we found out that something was not working.
Above all, we must learn to ask for forgiveness and -what is even more difficult- we must learn to forgive.
If we do not want to forgive, we surely have our reasons, but it is a personal choice nobody can teach us about and then nobody will be to blame for.
What is within our hearts will prevail and we must be ready to accept that there is still a chance that we go separate ways. Well, then let's try to make our relationship be worthy of being remembered as a dignifying experience.