Hello, you've rated all my work so I thought I would write a review on yours.
I am also a single christian (which is a good thing because I'm in highschool)but I've seen alot of single christians go through the same things you explained.
Ok so I have some stuff I agree with and some that I disagree, and as to be an optomist I will tell you the stuff I agree with first :)
1. I just wanted to stand up and shout, “for crying out loud, if you want something in your church for single people then get off your backside and do something about it!”
I agree with this totally, someone said, it might of been Jesus or a minister, I'm not sure, but nonetheless they said:
If you are going to criticize the church then you must be willing to do something about it.
So yes, i agree.
2. "My redeemed worldview says that my confidence and identity is found in Christ alone. I am worthy because He says I am."
yes, yes, finally someone gets it! I agree.
3. "When a guy comes into a church, you can bet that firstly, any single women will be checking to see if he is wearing a wedding ring and then secondly they will be thinking, “Hmm, I wonder if he is the one”. "
absolutely, we shouldn't be looking for opportune people to marry. We should like at every man as a brother in christ.
4. The speed-dating experience. I just agree that this is not the way to go, again, as stated above, we shouldn't always be looking for potential marriage parners.
alright, now for the things I don't agree with, teehee.
"lso want to make it clear that I do believe God brings people together and that he has a plan and purpose for our lives which he works out as and when he chooses to. However, I cannot move away from the thought that he also leaves us with a choice."
aaaah! this made me want to grap a bucket full of live man-eating iguanas and stick my head in it. God always leaves us with a choice, in EVERYTHING, but, if we are to be his disciples we should be looking for every opportunity to do exactly as he says. We should totally want to do his will, even if he gives us a choice.
"Also, we have to be wise and careful of those who make statements such as “God has told me…” in regards to matters of the heart. My rule of thumb is that if God is going to tell anyone about the person I will be joined together as one with, it hopefully would be me!"
this is another "eeeuuuughhhhh" sorry but...no! God uses other people to tell us a message as confirmation. The fact that someone else has been told something by god to tell you means that God wants to confirm something or that you yourself aren't listening and so he needs to get it across to you a different way. We, ofcourse, have to be careful who we listen to, but if we know that this person is a man or woman of God, then we should look to God to see if this is true advice.
Now here's the part I disagree with most. If you are a true, willing, absolutely devoted disciple of God then singleness is a calling in the same way marriage is. If God is using you to spread the Gospel, then he needs you to be in the position that he can use you best. If that position his marriage he will find the person that will help in his plan best, if it's single then your single. It has to be a calling.
I also think you have misinterpreted when people say "You have to be content with yourself and then God will give you a spouse." I think the statement has been worded wrong. Once you are able to function in God without a husband then he will consider giving you one. This is why: You are not to be dependant on any other person or thing than God. I mean dependant for life and stuff. If you "need" a man to be full in Christ, then you are not relying wholly on christ. He needs to tech you to rely on him, and then he can fill the desire of your heart, being marriage.
Anyway, there was other stuff but I forget lol, and this has almopsted 4000 characters, so.
I really encourage you to consider my points and go to God with them. I don't know what "type" of christian you are, I am an apostolic, so your views maybe different.
So yes, God Bless You!
Nicole
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