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Well, my husband has been deployed for 117 days now. I've kept crazy busy, put in hours at the gym, and keep counting the days. There are still months left to go and I'll keep counting, but I must say, hundreds of days without your best friend and other half really stinks :/
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I'll bet it does stink! It is good that you are trying to stay busy, and are going to the gym, but that doesn't fill the space that is his, alone, I know. I am glad to know that you are not just hiding away in bed though, or trying to fill the emptiness with junk food. You are taking positive actions to get through this difficult time, and I applaud you for that!

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Hang in there! I know it's hard. I once was a military wife myself. That was years ago, and he wasn't ever gone for so long, but I had a small taste of what you are going through. If you need / want to make a few new friends, get some support, consider the group I posted above in my previous comment. If not, I am still here, and if you need support, just let me know. I am not here every single day, but most days I am. *Hug*
Today (October 26) was National Day of the Deployed in the US. The movie Thank You for Your Service had an advanced release in select theaters in honor of the day. Additionally, AMC theaters gave free tickets with a military ID. I knew that seeing the movie alone while handling a deployment would be hard, but I really love Miles Teller and it was a very kind free ticket. So as a fellow Navy wife said, embrace the ugly cry! lol. So I went. And I did. Great movie! But man, Niagara Falls for sure! LOL *FacePalm* I think it was a great way to honor active duty currently deployed and veterans of past deployments. Military life is not an easy one. Not for the servicemen and women, nor for their families holding it down at home. Whenever someone actively and visibly recognizes and honors that, it is greatly appreciated. And please, if you're struggling post-deployment, seek help. You are not alone and PTSD is not a weakness. *Heart*


** We wear R.E.D. - Remember. Everyone. Deployed.**
A satellite phone call today! A slew of both happy and sad tears, ugly cry all the way. Hearing his voice say I love you for the first time in 3 weeks. It was just everything. The best "unknown caller" I've ever answered. *InLove*
An email from multiple time zones away, sent just for me through satellite beams from the rough and rocky high seas - sending word for word to me, sending with it love and sentiment and the mundane. Every word reminds me every time why I vowed: All the muches. For all the days. Until the world spins backwards and the night becomes the day and the stars are gone. And then? I will still love only you. My handsome, my love, my Sailorman. *Heart*

What are the strange and unique ways that you wish love to your other half, your children, your parents? Isn't it odd in the most lovely way how we all develop unique ways to explain our love and how that way becomes something only the other knows? It's as if it emboldens the love and the bond. When my husband asked me to marry him he did not say "will you marry me?" He did not say "will you spend your life with me?" He looked up at me from his bended knee near the museum steps and asked, "Will you be silly with me for all the days?" And we have always said "I love you all the muches, for all the days, for forever." And when I tell him that I love him more than all the words in all the books ever written in the history of the world, my nerdy sailorman scientist tells me he loves me more than all the electrons in the universe *Delight* hahaha - So what are your unique "I love yous?"
My husband deployed 11 days ago. Comms have been down for OpSec (Operational Security) during most of that time. Saying goodbye to my husband, knowing I would not see his face again for the better part of a year was the hardest thing I've ever dealt with, and I've dealt with some pretty tough moments in my life thus far. I've had multiple moments so far where I feel on the verge of tears and in public spaces, that makes me feel overwhelmingly uncomfortable. The smallest things can trigger a military spouse. I was completely caught off guard by overflowing emotions just grocery shopping at Target last week. A tower of DVDs nearly caused an emotional breakdown in public because at the end of a shopping trip, my husband's favorite part is looking at the DVDs and video games, whether we purchase any or not. So instead, I bought a journal with a large mountain and waterfall on the front and the words "Impossible is just an opinion" were written across it in gold, metallic letters. I started writing big moments in it. On days when it feels like this deployment will be a lifetime long, when I feel like I'm feeling too much, I write it down. Someone told me the other day how the story of our relationship sounds just like that, like a story in a book. They suggested to me that I write it down. As I sat here catching up on episodes of Scandal, wishing so much that my husband were sitting next to me, I thought, maybe I should. Truthfully, I never once in my wildest dreams saw myself, the most fiercely independent woman you've ever met, as a military wife. Yet here I am. The dutiful wife of a US Navy sailor. Who knew? Life is the most gripping, unpredictable story you could never write.
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THANKFUL SONALI Library Class! and River Author IconMail Icon Your support is very much appreciated :) I was so surprised this evening as I stood in line at the store to hear my phone *ping!* and look down to see that it was my Sailor! We got to message back in forth in real time (not including the satellite delay lol) for almost an hour for the first time since he shipped out. It was all I could do to check out because I was suddenly a bumbling idiot who lost all of her faculties and I was trying not to cry happy tears as I desperately scrambled to get out of the store! (you never know how long the connection will last!) It made my week to know that he is okay, a little sleep deprived, but safe and well, and to get to talk to him. We relish in the little things and appreciate the heck out of them! :D So thank you again, sometimes it's the support lifting you up that gets you through.
Oh my gosh! I'm so happy you got to message back and forth. It's great to know he's safe and well and that hour must have made you so happy and relieved.

Always here for you. River *Heart*
River Author IconMail Icon it certainly did! It made my whole week *Heart*
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It's a rough day, so I thought I'd write it down.
The longest thing I've written this week was a step by step description of a brain removal at autopsy. It was wasn't very literary. Somewhat descriptive, I guess, but no story, characters, or emotions - more of a how-to... not suggesting any random person remove a brain, but yeah. My ball of knowledge and experience is a strange one.
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Sounds like you have the makings of a good story however. Just add a few twists and wa-lah ... instant horror tale *Laugh*
Except if you're me, it's not so much horror but excited fascination :P
What's happening with me? Well let's see: I'm looking to move jobs and cities, I got engaged a few weeks ago, and because my fiancé is at sea right now (US Navy), I'm largely doing the wedding planning work solo and I'm pretty sure it's going to kill me! Lol Oi *FacePalm*
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Congratulations! Get used to moving ... in 20 years in the military, we never stayed in one place more than 3 years (and that was Germany). Wedding planning: 2 tickets to Vegas and a call to book Elvis. Doesn't seem too tough to me *Laugh*
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On a roll! Ident being slow is good for my story. So far today I've finished Chapter 12 and am now working on Chapter 15. I'm really happy to be getting a bit of time to get back to writing. I've wanted to finish this story for so long. I'm really excited for the turn it's taken *Smile*. What have you been excited about working on?
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Well, look at that! Yesterday I successfully obtained a house (signed the lease and move in in two weeks! eeeee!!) and today I finished my first new chapter in ages. It's been hard for me. I've felt the need to edit every one of my previous chapters in this novel before I felt like I could move forward. So eleven edited and completed chapters later and I finally have a chapter twelve!! Yay progress and yay house!!

Celebrate with me by perusing my chapters? *BigSmile* *Reading* I tend to reward good deeds and reviews with points to show my appreciation *Smile*

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Look at me, logging in two days in a row to keep editing. Woohoo. Upside to Idents being a bit slow here... :P
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So my Upgraded membership expired a few months ago and life has been so busy that I hadn't been able to check in and fix it! BUT! I am back! I started a new job at the beginning of August, Coroner Investigator for the Los Angeles County Medical Examiner-Coroner, so things have been a bit crazy. We also had a death in the family (my grandmother) and I had to write my first ever eulogy, it's much harder than one might think, and even harder to deliver. Things are finally beginning to settle into a groove though, I write this from the Decedent Services Unit bay, looking out to the morgue doors and the transport bay. I wanted to take a minute this morning before things get too busy around here to say hello to the faithful WDC crowd and let you know you've all been missed! Glad to be back and I hope to bring more words to my stories on here that have no doubt felt quite neglected in my extended absence.

Have a wonderful day/night across the globe, my friends!

- Chris
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Thanks so much :) Glad to be back.
Welcome back. Sorry about your grandmother. Yes,a eulogy is very difficult to write and deliver. I've done three now, and I hope to never do another!

Congratulations on your new job, it sounds like things are falling into place for you.
Thank you, River. It definitely is tough. My new job is hard work and ten hour days, but it's good to finally be doing the job I spent so many years in school for!
I've been blocked for monthsssss trying to figure out how to edit the beginning chapters of A Degree in Murder and I finally got hit with a spark last night on the train home from work. So I re-wrote, rearranged, and also added a chapter eleven. Yay! But now I need some feedback. Anyone willing to read over the first few chapters? I still have a little bit I think I want to edit with chapter three, but getting the start to this story right has been killing me since I started it about a year ago, lol.

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Thanks in advance to anyone willing to check it out. I'm willing to reward your efforts with GPs too :)

Cheers!

Chris
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