Basics Making out a will stalled when we realized we had basically nothing to leave anyone because the stuff we have isn't stuff they'd want. Stuff and basically not worth anything much. No paid-off house (or mansion or castle) to leave to the family to carry on the dynasty that doesn't exist. No huge company raking in big profits - nothing to leave- no piles of money or jewels. Some pictures, perhaps. They could take pictures of the pictures with their phones. Some old books they'd never read or reread, caressing worn vellum, tracing leather engravings. His drums- that no one plays, Mom's schoolmaster's desk that weighs about as much as a piano and is almost as big. It was depressing. Two hardworking adults who have worked their entire lines and have basically, nothing to show for it. All the kids, grands, and greats have their own stuff or can get what they want. Except for the greats, they are all grown. They don't need us and they don't need our stuff. But then, we thought again. What we will leave them is not stuff. Better than jeweled treasures or pots of gold, more precious than any thing. We already gave them their values which they have made their own. They have learned all the lessons we had to teach. Responsible adults who don't fear hard work, getting their hands dirty. People who appreciate working towards what they want. They've memorized all the stories and have a good start on their own. New histories and their own takes on older traditions. They are good people, people we are proud of in every way possible. We've already given them our hearts and souls. They already have the will in hand. No tax collector will come calling - their modern abacuses can't calculate the worth of a valued lesson or divine the price of love. So, basically, we've given our all and we get to appreciate that largess now in shining eyes and golden hearts. Their inheritance has been passed down throughout the ages- taught, passed on, improved upon. Someday, when it is their turn to worry about wills and trusts-- we trust they too will realize, as we have, that it isn't things or stuff. That it is the memories that are far more golden and that their stories are what is, basically, important. |