An opinion, or viewpoint about the many cycles of love, and how it affects our lives. |
Life is an amazing, and tricky little adventure. No matter how sure you are of your footing, fate can come along and slap your feet right out from under you. There never seems to be enough of those "calm" days. Where everything seems to be pulling itself together, and running smoothly. Where problems seem to be few and far between, and fortune seems to be smiling on you. Instead, we have so many hectic days. So many times where we are running short on time, and shorter on steam. When love factors into our everyday life, this roller coaster ride of ours seems to be even more wild. Nothing ever just fits, and stays there. It constantly shifts, melding into new shapes, and textures, so that you never seem to know which end is up, and which is just turned around. In the beginning of the realtionship, everything is golden, soft, and warm, blushing with newfound passion, it embraces you, and teases all of your senses. Soon, the bloom fades, and those endearing traits your partner has no longer seem so cute, or harmless. Instead, they slowly, and steadily tap at your nerves, like a leaky faucet. Dripping their way past your reseves of patience until one day, the first real argument between you rears it's ugly head, and all of those annoying habits, and little idiosyncrasies you have been trying so hard to overlook become magnified to drastic proportions. Many couples never make it past this point, the hurtful words said, or actions done during that first fight make it impossible to move on. Many continue the same fight on and off for years before giving up. While some are able to move on together, building a lasting, and timeless affection for each other. Truly able to enjoy each other's good qualities, while accepting the not so good ones. This is the most rare, since most of us cannot let our defenses down enough to reach a level where we are truly accepting of anything. That takes a whole new level of trust. Trust that your partner will be there for the long haul, that you are both flawed, but love will soften your edges together. That's a hard thing to place your faith in. Typically marriage goes through cycles of affection, peace, and moments of anger. Where for many days you feel amost as if you are a brand new couple, overjoyed at the prospect of spending time together. While other times, you would rather sleep on broken glass than exchange more than two words with one another. This, is the roller coaster ride. A peaceful, harmless incline up a steep hill, and then a terrifying drop to the bottom. Then, you do it all over again. Love is definitely tricky! But, with patience and care, it can be fun too! Just like that roller coaster ride, it can be exciting, and challenging, terrifying, and fun. It's one big adventure. |