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Romance/Love: July 18, 2007 Issue [#1835]

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1. About this Newsletter
2. A Word from our Sponsor
3. Letter from the Editor
4. Editor's Picks
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6. Ask & Answer
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About This Newsletter

Welcome to the Romance/Love Newsletter. My name is darkin and I'll be your editor this week. So sit back, relax and enjoy the ride*Bigsmile*


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A Different Kind of Romance


My husband and I will be celebrating our twenty-first wedding anniversary this year. We've had our ups and downs, and our share of difficulties. But our love has always pulled us through. Staying married this long takes a lot of work, but we both feel it is worth the effort.

Most romances only deal with brand-new romances. The couple meet, fall in love, get separated, get back together, and live happily ever after. They usually haven't met before, this is their first time together.

But romances do not have to be about first-time love. Rediscovering an old or lost love is a wonderful theme for a romantic tale. A couple who are going through a crisis of love and faith would make an interesting, and romantic, story. Even if the couple decide not get back together at the end.

You can use all of the usual reasons to keep your couple apart that you would use in a regular first meeting romance. But there are a few that are tailor-made for long-term relationships. Some of these plot vehicles might seem to be detrimental to a loving relationship. But remember, when creating tension and strife for your characters, all is fair in love and war.

Empty Nest Syndrome
Many couples experience relationship problems when their children finally leave home. They think things will be better with the kids gone. While that can happen, often times a couple experience a sense of loss after the children are gone. Maybe it's a loss of purpose or the realization they don't know their spouse as well as they thought they did. The loss can manifest itself in a lot of ways; from mild mood swings to a wandering lust, but all can make great romantic fodder.

Cheating - Real or Imagined
When one, or both, spouses believes the other is cheating it can really create tension and problems in a marriage. Whether true or not, just the suspicion can cause plenty of tension in an otherwise strong relationship. A spouse who believes their significant other is cheating might even try to even the score, so to speak.

New Job or Degree
Getting a better job than your spouse can cause some hard feelings, even if the new job is beneficial to the household. The same can be said of a degree, especially if the spouse doesn't have one. The spouse who doesn't have one can feel inadequate or left out. They might even wonder why their spouse is still with them.

Long-Distance Love
Sometimes, during a marriage, one spouse will have to spend a lot of time away from their love. Whether it is business or family issues that keep spouses apart this can create a lot of stress for a couple, even one that are very much in love. This can be especially hard when children are involved. The spouse who is away can feel guilt for not being there during good and bad times. And the spouse who is left behind can feel abandoned and overwhelmed at having to do all the things that two people did before.

Most romance writers seem to prefer writing about first-time loves. Those are a great romantic stories and fun to write. But I feel writing about rediscovering a lost love can be just as good. Romance in real life is about more than first love. People from all walks of life fall in love everyday and your writing should reflect that. Give the married couple a chance to rediscover their love, you won't regret it*Smile*

Thank you for taking the time to read. Happy Writing!

darkin


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Ask & Answer

Thank you for allowing me into your e-mail boxes for this week's issue. I had a wonderful time writing this issue and would love to hear what you think about it. Here is some feedback I received from my last newsletter.

Last time I asked my readers what is the most romantic location to have a wedding? It doesn't have to be a foreign location, or even a popular one, but it has to be romantic to you. I got two responses that I really liked, and since I can't choose between them, I am awarding both the Romance Merit Badge and 5,000GPs!!!

darkin

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Submitted By: Celticeagle/km2007 Author Icon
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I wanted to enter a location for the romantic wedding spot. Mine is the Rose Garden in one of Boise, Idaho's most popular parks,Julia Davis. Roses of red, orange, yellow, pink and mauve. Some have a light peppery scent while others smell so sweet and frangrant they are nearly intoxicating.

Alarge white gazebo sets in the center of the garden. Vines of honey suckle run over the roof and shade the inside.

There are wedding there all summer long. It is truly lovely.

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Thank you, it sounds like a wonderful place to have a wedding*Smile*

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Submitted By: Vivian Author Icon
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The most romantic location for a wedding, to me, is the rose garden in an Oklahoma City park. In fact one section is set up for weddings with a platform at one end and rows of seats. The flowers bloom in various hues all around the outdoor "wedding chapel" as roses climb trellises, creating perfumed dividers. With a gentle breeze carressing skin and feathering wisps of hair, no artifical air conditioning can complete. Tall, stately roses nod their heads as a couple repeat holy vows. The setting is complete once the bride and groom face their family friends as husband and wife.

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Thank you for the beautiful description*Smile*

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And thank you both for the wonderful wedding locations.*Bigsmile* Here are some other comments I received with my last newsletter.

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Submitted By: fleckgirl
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Darkin - This was a GREAT newsletter! I enjoyed alot of the featured pieces, and saw some pretty interesting contests that might help inspire me to get writing again. Thanks for refreshing that mushy sap that's hidden in all of us!
Fleck Girl

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Thanks, I'm glad you enjoyed the newsletter!

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Thank you so much for adding my short story to the newsletter this week. I am flattered and rather surprised. Not that old thing!!

Interesting topic, gives me something to think about for the end of my book.

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You're welcome, and thank you for reading!

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Submitted By: Incurable Romantic Author Icon
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Darkin,

Your latest newsletter is another masterpiece. I loved your column on weddings, and I totally agree with you about the turn-off feeling of those UNhappily ever after endings. I don't like those at all. Wonderful work - keep it up!

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*Blush* Thank you for the kind words*Bigsmile*

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Submitted By: Starr Phenix Author Icon
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I have to say I'm one of those who just can't seem to write a traditional 'happy ending'. My view on it is this: There are no happy endings in life because life doesn't end until death, which is not typically looked on as a happy thing. I look at it as a series of moments - some happy, some not so happy- and that is how I write. I try to end stories and novels on an 'up' beat, but I can count on one hand the number of 'happy endings' I've penned.

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There are times I can't write a happy ending too. But an unhappy ending can work too. As long as it works for the characters, that's what matters*Bigsmile*

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