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Romance/Love: October 18, 2006 Issue [#1327]

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Romance/Love


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  Edited by: Red Writing Hood <3 Author IconMail Icon
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About This Newsletter



Hi, Red Writing Hood: Romance Reporter, here!

I will cover everything from poetry and stories of every length to customs and creative projects. If it has to do with romance and love, I will share it in this newsletter.



Writing in the romance genre means knowing the elements of love and romance. Today I'll be talking about the ultimate loving commitment: marriage. I understand that everyone reading this newsletter is of differing marital status, but I had to focus my editorial and decided to "talk" to the soon-to-be-married. Use what you learn here today when you are writing about marriage - from those characters about to get married to characters with good marriages and rough marriages.



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Letter from the editor



5 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Married My Husband


1. I wish I knew that he had no clue where we kept the toilet paper roll refills (or that he had no idea how to replace the empty roll if, anticipating the need, a refill was left out for him).

2. I wish I knew that his idea of “clean the kitchen” and mine were as far apart as bologna sandwiches and filet mignon.

3. I wish I knew that my opinion wouldn’t count for anything unless it was confirmed valid and agreed with by his friends, colleagues, the neighbors, the trash collector, the paperboy…

4. I wish I knew that by choosing to be a stay-at-home mom I would work harder than I did when I worked both a full-time and part-time job at the same time. And that when moms watch their kids it’s “watching the kids” and when dads watch their kids it’s “babysitting.”

5. I wish I knew that instead of bringing me flowers and saying “I love you” through poetry, his way of saying “I love you” was building me a flower garden and changing my car’s oil.

~*~

This list is given with touches of humor, but there is sincerity in the serious side. As much as you think you know your fiancée, it’s not as much as you should know before you marry.

At this romantic time, there are unromantic topics every soon-to-be-married couple needs to discuss. Constructive communication is the heart of good marriages, so you might as well start practicing before you walk down the aisle.

My husband’s favorite line in our early married years was, “but I’ve never been married before – I didn’t know.” You may be thinking the same thing if you are about to be married and wonder what sort of questions to ask each other.

One way to go about it is to find a church that counsels couples before marriage. Many will help you focus on possible future stresses that may come up and will help you talk it over, as well as talk about individual values you may have. Then, you can see where they mesh as well as if they differ completely. These differences, while not a bad thing, will help you begin compromising as a couple on important issues.

You could also use a great book I found: Don’t You Dare Get Married Until You Read This! by Corey Donaldson. In it you will find five hundred questions from “is there anything about marriage that frightens you” to “which side of the bed do you want to sleep on.” Not all questions may be pertinent to your situation, but each one, from “do you prefer separate bank accounts or assets in different names” to “how often do you take a shower” is important.

Whether you use one of the above resources or choose to find your own way: by discussing daily (what seems like) insignificant things, as well as, important issues - you will be able to avoid many arguments that surprise couples as they get used to sharing lives together.


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Theme: Love & Marriage


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My precious little girl wanted to tagalong with me everywhere I went.
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Gotta question, answer, problem, solution, tip, trick, cheer, jeer, or extra million lying around?

If so, send it through the feedback section at the bottom of this newsletter OR click the little envelope next to my name Red Writing Hood <3 Author IconMail Icon and send it through email.


Comments on last month's newsletter:


Submitted By: AuntyNelly Author Icon
Submitted Comment:

Hi Red Writing Hood, As usual loved yr NL and also featured poems. Unfortunately or fortunately our past always affects our present actions. I guess we also learn from our past mistakes, or should do. At the moment I'm living an intense present and hope it will continue for a long time.

Take care and speak soon, AuntyNelly *Smile*


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Submitted Comment:

Red, Its been a coon age since we chatted. I'm happy you're still active and doing well it would seem, since this is a very well done newsletter. *Smile* Thank you for donating you time in such a selfless manner for those of us here that (like me) need all the help we can get *Smile*

Your friend, John


Submitted By: Katya the Poet Author Icon
Submitted Comment:

Great newsletter. Nice to get the snippets about your own romantic history.

4 kids!!!? Wow!


Thank you all for your great comments. Keep them coming ~ they are fuel for my creative engine! *Delight*



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