Love and Hot Water [E] A look at what it really means to love someone. |
Dear Simple Dykie This article "Invalid Item" has some elements of unintended humor that seemed to border on surreal fabrication, for a non-fictional monologue. It keenly ignores its own details while it enlightened this reader about how unnecessarily hard we work at love…or a marriage in this case. The author’s foray shows the lack of knowledge we men have about women. I think we can understand how much harder it is physically for the frailer species with the added curse of menstruation to menopause. Not easy subjects to broach but lend to misunderstandings because they don’t talk about. Me, as neurodivergent, never understood it was something they didn’t like to have acknowledged in any form of kindness from a guy. Obviously, men and women run in different social circles creating a rift and bias toward the other, where that attraction can apply from puppy love to lust exists. We physically get familiar, tie the knot, do what’s the norm, raise a family, toil to keep a home and necessities. Really, everything conforming can work against a happy relationship that we must bear down and grind through. The whole silly premise of your central story is built on an undersized water heater. I can only imagine how long it takes to read 15 chapters of War & Peace, but a bath that long would shrivel the woman. And if she kept refilling the bath knowing you’d eventually need one, she’d have to be daft or the self-indulgent Queen. She doesn’t come off looking too good (another unintended comedy). Let him eat…a bar of soap? That’s why this reads like a farce. It’s a nice depiction of what the main character does for love. Simply, turn off the heater after the tub is filled. Turn back on before your shower. I know, devious. You can still be the good guy, if not caught. Though, entire premise is what pleases the story teller. More later. But seriously, get a 40-50 gallon water heater and make it’s not set so high that it has to keep generating hot water, as bathing seems important to story and over-indulged. Perhaps, a hot foot bath. I thought you might massage her feet when I got to that. But, Calgone take me away! Anyway, there are many takeaways about sacrifice. It’s noble but unnecessary to not report good deeds. Just say what you did in passing. She’s being treated like a princess, little girl. Communication and shared knowledge is key, or the hot water fairy will pay many more visits. A man shouldn’t have to seem like a people pleaser. A woman who uses him as a doormat might respond to a man who is a bit aloof, withholding, in the sense that he doesn’t go out of his way all the time. Simply prioritize what’s important to you and give what’s equal to what you receive. I think a Beatle had a notion about that. Love is something you work at, if you have mutual commitment. This advice from father is old school. Divorce is so high, it makes the institution of marriage (usually linked to religion) a social convention that needs a retool. The advice to tell her you love her every day is good. Showing her from time to time would trump that. Not talking sky-written messages, that’s romcom and a parody of love. We know our women, the little things matter. There’s a song “More Than Words” you might be familiar with. This article is a good reminder why we commit to another to share our living expenses. It reminds we are poor in wealth but can be rich in love. I think the narrator enjoys this bit of sacrifice but may come to resent the woman in the long run when the children have grown, everyone loves mom, and dad is the odd one left out of the loop, because that was a choice called sacrifice without benefits. Well, some, if you don’t grow to despise her…reason is coming. Article treats offspring as a throwaway. They factor. Family love emboldens the relationship with a significant other. My advice…make good lasting memories to recall lifelong. You have a lot of self-serving secrets, according to this. Hey, it’s not bad to sacrifice. There comes a time when we tire of treating someone like a pet and they don’t know how to respond when you meet crisis, worsening life fate to live alone with someone. What should a committed love be? Maybe, Think the Notebook without the missing years. But, without the missing years, The Notebook is an average story. And, that’s all we need to strive for. A pleasure to read and consider your monologue for feedback. Brian Super Power Reviewer My review has been submitted for consideration in "Good Deeds Get CASH!" .
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