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Courting—old fashioned? Open in new Window. [E]
An essay with points on a subject of dating and its rules.
by Ironworker Author Icon
Review by Starling Author IconMail Icon
Rated: E | (4.0)
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Notes: Very true information you have written here. Like you, I hope it helps someone out there in the world. I’m sorry if you have been hurt by the difference between courting and dating. Sometimes life’s lessons hurt. I have included a line-by-line review below.
Red - changes needed
Blue - suggestions and comments.

***Who ever (one word) said “ignorance was bliss” —was probably never in a relationship.
***In a conversation with a person my junior by 30 years or so, I made the discovery that she held that, in her words,(space before the quote marks, remove space after the quote marks) " the belief Courting was a thing of the past." and that "noone (two words) did that anymore! It was too old fashioned (hyphenated) .” I realized instantly that she had had a number of misunderstandings about what courting was, its purpose (comma) and that of dating (comma) and the roles they do, (no comma) and will play in any relationship.
***Now I don't profess to be any kind of relationship guru but Ive (apostrophe -ve) had my fair share of bad relationships (period, remove quote marks) but "I was fortunate in that most of them for me were early in the game before things were explained to me by my Grandmother. So I feel obligated to share a piece of knowledge many have seemed to have never gotten or never applied because it was mis-understood (not hyphenated) or just unknown. So, Allow (lower case on -a) me to explain.
***Let me break this down further. First— Dating has two parts. Going out, meeting new people, having fun, exploring ones (apostrophe -s) own gender role. It is now that you try new things but for the important purpose of learning what you like and equally important, what you don't like.
***Which This brings me to the second part. After all (comma) what are you dating for? Most women Ive (apostrophe -ve) spoken to say "to get married.,"(space after the quote marks, remove period) and most men say "to have fun till they get married." (not a new paragraph) In either case (comma) the second part of dating is to arm yourself with the ability to recognize the characteristics of such an individual. (not a new paragraph) Now it’s at this point, for many, that things go awry.
***Consider, You've (lower case on -y) found someone your you’re comfortable around, makes you feel good, special. You want to," (remove comma and quote marks) go steady, be exclusive, you don't want him or her to cheat on you. Am I right? If I am, for you the the difference between dating and courting at this point will be important to you.
***This can seem unfair and certainly without an understand(ing) of the purpose of establishing a courtship, seem even painful. Leading to headache, (add -s) fights (comma) or worse. But, keep in mind, a courtship is not a thing as much as it is a communication to your partner that you are ready and want more from them. It Is (lower case) a declaration, yes, and an important one so the two of you can get onto the same page. And Being (lower case) on the same page is the whole point. It's why cultures regardless of trappings have alway (add -s) been about both parties being on the same page. The parties agree, the parents agree. While the trappings have never been important.. (only one period is needed) The communication and its reciprocal agreement has have always been the point. Now it's At (lower case on -at) this point he or she is now accountable to you for their actions.
***And you can legitimately inflict all the rage you feel because breaking the trust given in a courtship is in fact, a betraiel. . (spelling, remove one of the periods)
***Let me further clarify what I mean by be(ing) on the same page. . (remove one of the periods) You've been seeing him for a few months. (add space) You think of him as your boyfriend then one night . (remove space in front of the period) (You have zeroed in on it being the girl's problem here. The phrasing needs to be changed so it could be male or female who is messing up) You and your girls go out and you see him with another. They see him or her too. Has he or her she betrayed your trust? Yes, but only if the two of you had talked and decided to stop dating others.. (only one period) If you haven't. (comma not a period) then he or she is within there their rights to continue dating. What do you do!
***This may be hard but, Bring (lower case) it up later with them. With this approach (comma) you can now know where you stand in any relationship.
***Keep in mind the overall purpose of courting or going steady or anything you want to call it is to consider the partner for marriage and building a family. It's not to cultivate any belief that you have a claim to the individual or any ownership.
***Its (apostrophe -s) my hope that a renewed awareness of a very old yet time honored-understanding of Courting and its rules may ease some of the emotional stress that can arise when one is not on the same page with the ones they love.

By Dayna AKA Ironworker
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