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Rated: 13+ · Book · Experience · #2171316
As the first blog entry got exhausted. My second book
Evolution of Love Part 2
November 15, 2024 at 3:08am
November 15, 2024 at 3:08am
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A man without enemies is a man without qualities. If everyone loves you, especially the women around you, that’s not a mark of success—it’s a warning sign. Real men, men of conviction, don’t aim to be loved by everyone. The minute you’re universally adored, trust me, you’re slipping, watering yourself down, and compromising. You’re likely ignoring your own values, bending yourself to fit in, and losing your edge. That’s not the path to respect; it’s the path to becoming irrelevant.

When you’re a man with principles, you’re going to step on toes. You’re going to have people who can’t stand you, who feel threatened by the fact that you have standards and boundaries. And why? Because a man of character doesn’t make concessions that betray his values. He stands by what he believes, even if it means friction with others. He’s firm, he’s grounded, and he doesn’t bend to please everyone. The truth is, the stronger your sense of self, the more you’ll find yourself at odds with those who lack it.

Being respected often means being disliked. A real man isn’t afraid to say “no.” He’s not swayed by superficial opinions, nor does he crave validation. When you live by a code, by principles, you draw a line that some people won’t cross with you. It makes them uncomfortable because they can’t manipulate you, charm you, or get you to settle for less than what you know you deserve.

Especially in the eyes of women, a man with qualities and principles isn’t always loved—he’s respected. The man who’s universally adored by women is often the one who says yes to everyone, who bends his identity, who acts in ways that keep him in everyone’s good graces, even if it means betraying his own standards. But the man who has the strength to say “no,” the man who stands firm, gains something more valuable than fleeting admiration: he gains respect. Women may not love everything about him, but they respect the fact that he isn’t easily swayed.

When you have values, you’re willing to lose relationships, status, and even comforts if they don’t align with who you are. This is why great men have enemies; they aren’t afraid to live authentically, and authenticity will always ruffle feathers. You can’t be true to yourself and expect everyone to be on board. And you don’t want them to be. If everyone’s happy with you, if everyone’s patting you on the back, it’s because you’re not standing for anything that truly matters.

The most respected leaders, thinkers, and visionaries weren’t loved by everyone. They were criticized, challenged, and sometimes even despised. But they were unshakable in their convictions. They didn’t cater to everyone, and they didn’t let superficial praise sway them. They were defined by the strength of their principles, not by the number of friends they kept or the women who adored them.

So remember this, men: don’t aim to be everyone’s favorite. Aim to be respected. Set standards. Stand by them. If people, especially women, find you too “difficult” or “intimidating,” you’re likely on the right path. A man with no enemies, no critics, and no one challenging his stance is a man who stands for nothing. Be the man who’s willing to stand alone, to say “no” when it matters, and to accept that your integrity will make you a few enemies. That’s the mark of a man with qualities, with depth, and with an unbreakable character.


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