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Emotional Control: Am I a fraud April 17, 2025 at 10:19pm Well I was scrolling today on TikTok.
I go for philosophical and theoretical and idea based. Those are what the algorithm pushes at me.
And one of them really hit me. The idea:
That a man who feels he is wise and restrained may realize that he's only depressed.
And that's definitely a direct hit. Like David hitting Goliath square in the head with a stone given the force of a .45 Magnum. (Gladwell, n.d.) I don't know if I am really wise and if all my NLP and Self ... [Read more] Emotional Control: put the best part at the end April 14, 2025 at 11:21pm Who are you?
Your emotions reflect your beliefs.
The only reason you react so strongly to the world, is because you don't think you are strong, don't think you are safe. If you did, then you would be reacting to inconveniences or even challenges, not threats.
Life is a rollercoaster, what goes up must come down. Every bad thing is followed by a thousand more things. Some of them are good, and some especially good.
It is always darkness before dawn.
So stick with y... [Read more] Emotional Control: Be careful with this one. April 7, 2025 at 11:12am So there are thousands of angles when working with the mind. The few that I remember are offered in the hope that they will spark something of value.
This isn't some Great Old Tradition, it is science, and I mean science you're doing--testing and collecting knowledge. If a recipe works, then it gets added to the collection; if not it gets retooled or even scrapped. We're just adjusting and exploring.
The next bit of value is something that slightly misfired in my hands. I&... [Read more] Emotional Control: Negotiation with Overwhelm April 5, 2025 at 10:26am All of the things I have mentioned before have been useful for a temporary snap out of overwhelm. And they work very well with what I've got for you tonight--it can be done at the same time. However, half the issue during overwhelm is to know what to do. The mind resists any possible action as inadequate and incomplete. Which brings to mind the Ancient Teacher (Lao Tzu)
Great work seems incomplete; it's use is never ending.
Or in other words the reason it seems not enough i... [Read more] Emotional Control: Emotional Vocabulary April 2, 2025 at 12:52am Emotional Control: Amping it up.
Understand that this is a huge subject with scores of things to learn that will all help. Any one of them that you do well enough to see the value of it will be a real asset. Here are a few points:
The Mel-Robbins High Five
We begin with one that really seems to work just by painting by numbers--very little practice. We already have rapport with our mirror, as it follows our lead and we expect that. So it tends to amp up body language basically by ag... [Read more] |