I've spent years looking for these ideas. Finally getting there. Let me know if there is any question I can help or point you to the original material.
Sort of like how when I had chickens and I needed to carry one around without freaking it out, I would take its head and tuck it under its own wing, and the chicken would....decide it was night time and go to sleep in my arms, until I got it to wherever I was carrying it. I knew I wasn't THAT much more complicated than a chicken...
They weren't really all that bad. I was getting worked up in a way that usually doesn't hit in my writing, so it bothered me. The problem really came from elsewhere.
Thanks so much, Nobody’s Home, for the vote of confidence. Truth to tell I usually go the other way, accepting as many suggestions as I can. Crazier the better, you know? Either way, if I get a harassing review I know where to look, according to w.com, but it's good to know I've got a friend in my corner too.
Thank you for sharing this- both the email boost from your friend and your comment regarding it.
I'm so sorry you've felt the need to defend the words you've written and shared. It might be a useless effort for me to say "I believe..." but - I believe that your writing is your own, and isn't something that should ever require defending. Unless it's to an editor and you're getting ready to publish something ...and even then I might, oh, I don't have enough experience to be giving such advice.
Just, if you know what you're writing and why, and it makes sense to you...if it's causing one reviewer to get down on you, toss the review away and try to let it go, because they obviously don't understand your work. They're coming from a completely different life experience (or something-shrug). If a lot of readers aren't "getting it," then maybe you'll want to revisit it. But, friend, this is your writing, your soul, your heart you're putting out there. We do make ourselves vulnerable when we write. I hope you'll take strength in who you are and keep writing in your style. Don't let the bullies get you down. And if you feel bullied, please let me or a mod know.
Thanks for the suggestion. I have been trying to do this in my blog for the month of April. I am working on doing an entry per day first, and then I will work up to longer and longer entries.
Now that we have a handful of the things that have worked for in-the-moment self regulation--more nuance is on the way--there are other longer-term strategies.
One way that one can help soothe oneself is by understanding the emotions. First, one begins with the basic analysis. Just knowing what you're feeling--e.g. is it anger or frustration? and is it intense or mild?--can shift the burden to the higher brain. This in turn, in a way that you can see on brain scans, calms the emotions. ... [Read more]
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