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Scream, dahling, and get it out of your system!

That said, let me think. 1: I absolutely disagree that having an unorganized room automatically nominates a person for the mental-illness-of-the-year award. 2: "Trailer trash"? Isn't that more than somewhat disrespectful of people who live in mobile homes? 3: It sounds like your dad is feeling threatened about your opinions about the foods he eats and has chosen to be defensive about it. However, a messy room and eating habits don't really have much to do with each other, so the logic escapes me. 4: Nobody is ever completely right. Does he really think he's 100% correct regarding health stuff, or is it that he resents your strong opinions? While I was going through all that crap with Steve I was sure that he thought he was completely right on every subject we discussed (er, tried to discuss, before we ended up screaming at each other and leaving). Now I understand that he didn't think he was right all the time, but he wasn't willing to give even a inch of ground because of the issues between us. I think I was acting the same way. It's easier to discuss it now that it's a couple years in our past, but it's still strange.

Anyway. I imagine I haven't really been helpful here; I can't think of any fantastic advice, other than to talk it out, try to understand his point of view, try to understand that he may be feeling judged (why are fathers so quick to leap to the conclusion that their daughters are juding them?! Or is it just human nature?), and try to keep communication open.

Shit, I sound so condescending and flat! Truly, Caitsy, it sounds yucky. I so well know the feeling of helpless anger at not being able to get through to my father, not being able to understand his motives or make him understand mine. Good luck! Hugs, sweetie!

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