Barriers affecting our relationships

Barriers affecting our relationships

IAm just an another person,  like you. I like to think of myself
as independent person; various people might agree to it even. Some of
the readers out there might have mutual thinking. But are we really ?
I didn't "make" by bed, I didn't build my laptop, I didn't
stitch my clothes. The universal fact , which every individual has to
accept, is that one cannot live in isolation, thus he/she has
relationships, which in turn makes them dependant. And the thing to
understand is that it's okay to be dependant ! Now I want to talk
to those people who think they are a "nobody". You are not. You
might not know, but you already might have numerous relationships.
We, me and you, shall now scrutinize what stops us from creating
wonderful relations.

Believe it or not, there people with statistical beliefs which
stops them from having possible relations. The statistical
probability of having a pleasant time with the same person is slim to
none. As a result, those people don't even try. My advice: you cant
quantify human emotions and thinking. Take the initiative. Earlier
cultural beliefs, I hope everyone knows this, were intransigent.
These beliefs were barriers between inter cultural people. No offence
but even racial beliefs were and are pathetic reason for not being
someone's mate. It's still hardwired into people's subconscious
that others with different culture, religions, race should be
avoided. But thank the gods, this awful thinking is finally facing a
paradigm shift, towards a thinking where everyone depends, values,
respects  one and all.

To this obstacle I personally relate to. Once you are with someone
wonderful and that person stomps on your heart you plummet down a
depression pit. There is just raw tangible pain left in you. You
never want to feel that way again. You don't want to be so
vulnerable again. I loved a person very much and somehow, she liked
me too. But soon she drifted apart. She didn't talk to me, didn't
want to see me. I divulged myself into a depressive song spree. After
this, I became mean, insensitive and a thick skinned person. I was
angry. I minimized communications with everyone. I closed my mind. I
didn't want anyone the power to hurt me ever again. Many of you
might have experienced this, in one way or the other. But I realized,
not too late, that this was unhealthy. For all you reading this,
start opening up, you have to let someone in, confide in someone, be
vulnerable again, no matter how strenuous the job might be. Hell, I
am trying too.

Now what  I noticed is significant number of people have this fear
inside. They don't want to take a risk. One fear is of forgetting
someone. You might not be with someone because you are afraid that
you will forget the person you originally loved. Let that be you
partner, mother, father, friend. You are afraid of losing them from
you heart. You won't. you have to latch on to those amazing
memories you have had with them. Another fear is that of rejection.
You don't trey to with someone because you are afraid they won't
like you, find you unattractive, find you boring. And ultimately
reject you. But how will you know if you take the chance? Life is all
about risks people. You have to stop overthnking and start acting
upon it.

These are just a few barriers we discussed,  there are
,undoubtedly, more. To sum it up: fear, vulnerability, beliefs. These
barriers affect  correlations in a gigantic way. I strenuously say
that don't be afraid of rejection, it's okay to be dependant;
it's how you will gain happiness and attain peace. When you come to
think of it, dependency ultimately leads to power. Take risks ! There
is never time for these things but what you need to learn is to make
time for relations important to you. Start making an effort, change
your attitude towards problems. You need to be confident, don't
doubt your decisions. But keep in mind to not change yourself if
someone wants you to, change yourself if only you want to.