Why Do We Fall In Love?

Why do we fall in love?
Can we be in love and not have to fall in love?
Is there any difference between being in love and falling in love?
I never could understand the difference between the two.
If I love someone is that not consist of me being in love.
Do I have to be in love and love the person at the same time?

Being in love is so confusing.

I once loved someone.
Not sure if I was in love, but I did love her.
I did everything that I could to perfect our relationship.
Somehow I failed in the process of loving her since our relationship ended.
Maybe I wasn’t in love.
Maybe if I were in love our relationship would have lasted.
It could have been her who didn’t love me.
She wasn’t in love with me, I presume.

Being in love is so confusing.

We fall in love for the wrong reason.
The reason she and I were together, because she persuades me to love her.
I didn’t want to be in love.
I wanted to love her and not be emotionally attached.
Her expressing her feelings to me made me weak.
I felt I had no choice but to love her, so I can please her.
Even though I tried, I know something was wrong because I wasn’t in love.
I was around not knowing why.

Pleasing her was difficult.
It’s hard to please someone if your heart not into it.
I wasn’t on the same page.
I was physically in the relationship, but my heart was elsewhere, thinking of someone else.

I probably should have been straightforward, letting her know how I really felt about being in a relationship.
Sometimes we are afraid to tell someone how we truly feel, so we won’t cause any emotional grief.
Sometimes we would rather be in an unhappy relationship and suffer.
We would say to ourselves, we’ll deal with it.
I was that person that dealt with a lot of unnecessary conflict being in a relationship.