Drastic Measures #4: Clarification

I recently wrote a series of articles about how my husband and I made drastic changes to our marriage to handle day to day problems. Along with spelling errors it appears that I may have failed to show the better side of our choices. Some seemed to have taken it as though I regretted these choices. Nothing could be farther from the truth.

"Drastic Measures" was the first article. I showed how we used the lives of relatives in times past to decide what might work better than following the ways of everyone else. I showed how we handled problems such as debt, bills and day to day family problems which arise through the uncertainty of who is in control. How putting everything in order makes everything clear and easy.

"Drastic Measures: 10 Yrs. Later" was the second article showing how the choices my husband and I made worked. It showed how sometimes when we swallow our pride and do what works instead of what we want things can work out far better in the long run. It showed how obedience and the consequences of our choices and actions can be a blessing in disguise when viewed properly.

"Drastic Measures: Questions Answered" was an article answering the questions some had when reviewing my articles. Although most were favorable it appears the issues of handling problems and finding solutions which work even they may not be popular or well liked were overshadowed by the part of my husband disciplining me and my daughter. I guess as soon as those lines were read all else was forgotten.

In this article I wanted to clarify the order of my articles as shown above. I wanted to clarify that yes, I am happy with the choices my husband and I agreed upon. I also wanted to clarify that it was not comedy or meant to anger others. It merely shows the popular choice or opinion is not always that which works. The humility, subjection and obedience unto their husbands women had in times past was used for a very good reason. It worked. Paying the consequences for rebellion and laziness also worked and in my case continues to work. That's why it has always been used on children in times past and they learned respect.

There are ways in which we can have a good time and a close family without modern entertainment, pride, filth and our ego ruining it. It is the same our examples of old found in both the Bible and our own history. I know that some fear the idea of being in subjection unto their husband because so many have abused such authority in times past. Not all men are that way. My husband has never abused his authority. We have a great time even though he is the head of our household. Our daughter has had a great life as witnessed by her never hesitating to bring friends over.

Why must a good time always revolve around television, a computer, booze or parties? Why must a good time always have to be when we get our way regardless of whether or not our husband is humiliated or disrespected? Shouldn't he be our priority since we married him? Shouldn't we prove it on a daily basis?

What about our children? What do they see when mommy and daddy are arguing over things which can be corrected even if the answer isn't in accordance with our ego? What about the confusion in the home? The lack of discipline, cursing and disrespect of our husbands? Have we ever realized that maybe that is why children today show such a lack of respect for others? Even the Bible says train up a child in the way that he should go and when he is old he shall not depart.

Have we ever considered that fun between us and our children can come from old time sources such as catching lightening bugs? Have we stopped to think that joyful conversation can be had as we teach our daughters to cook, clean and do the laundry and dishes working by our side? Have we considered that our daughters can get insight into life and have joyous times while we teach them to sew and make dresses? It's not demeaning housework. At least not for me. It's a time when I could share the things handed down from my mother to my daughter. It's precious moments that can't be equaled when our attention is fastened to a computer, a game or a cell phone every spare moment we have. Enjoyment can be when we sit with our daughters and share a bowl of popcorn while watching a movie. Talking about whatever she may ask.

There's so much to life we miss. Our so called equal rights have enslaved us to an employer and taken the precious moments with our children away. They've caused us to rebel against and become disobedient unto our husbands at times because we have to have our way. We say we love him yet fail to show it outside the bedroom. Sex without the commitment of our daily lives and placing him first is almost like just being a whore who was purchased through marriage if the love and sacrifice and obedience is nowhere to be found. It almost like "Here dear, you can have a good time. Just keep supporting me." That's pretty close to what a whore does.

I guess this article will anger some as well. The problem isn't with the choices my husband and I made. It's with humility, obedience and paying the consequences for our actions. The problem is with having to place others before our self. It's with taking the marital vows serious enough to lay aside our own freedom and equality.

Jesus is listed as being a great King who shared all glory with God before this world was made. It is written all of the host of Heaven worship and praise him. Yet, he came down to dwell among man and humbled himself. Rather than arrive as a great king he came as a lowly carpenter's son. He likened himself to a mother hen. A female. He didn't demand that he live the appointed life of a man which is threescore and ten years. He came to do his Father's will and was obedient and gave up his life at about half his days. If he could humble himself that far then why can't we women follow his example? Why can't we humble our self and be in subjection unto our husband?

Discipline and spankings are such a little part of our life. Nothing to be compared unto the joy and peace of having a family that lives in a household free of confusion, strife and ego fueled arguing. Nothing to be compared unto having a family that enjoys each other's company and values each other's opinions. Nothing to be compared unto the small things which outweigh the modern things which have destroyed so many marriages and families.

When I wrote "Drastic Measures" the intent was to show that newer is not always better. That the majority isn't always right. That which comes from higher education can be worthless when it is void of common sense and morals. It showed that the choices my husband and I made worked. They lasted and have made us both feel blessed.