 Romance/Love: April 14, 2010 Issue [#3663] |
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Dealing with a Breakup
It was hard for me to think about writing the Romance/Love Newsletter this week because I recently went through a breakup with my longtime boyfriend. The breakup was mutual and civil, and we’re still good friends, but there just aren’t any romantic feelings in my head right now. Instead, I’ve been thinking about going back to school, submitting poems and short stories, and generally making my life better.
So for this week’s newsletter, I’ve decided to talk about dealing with breakups, since it’s obviously on my mind. How we handle a breakup depends on how rocky the situation was. For me, breaking up with my boyfriend was for the best because it allowed me focus more on pleasing myself. However, that doesn’t mean that I didn’t have feelings of resentment, sadness and confusion. It feels a lot like the grieving process one goes through when a loved one dies—only for me, the acceptance stage came first. 
Here are some things I recommend for anyone who has recently experienced a breakup. They seem to be working for me, and I hope you can find some comfort in them too.
 Focus on yourself. Sometimes, a relationship doesn’t last because one or both of the parties involved has been trying to please the other one at the expense of pleasing themselves. Take up those hobbies you always wanted to do— knitting, scrapbooking, golfing, volunteering— and you’ll not only find a greater sense of self worth, but also meet new people in the process.
 Don’t feel as if you can’t live the single life. I hadn’t been single for almost four years when my boyfriend and I broke up, so the thought was a little unsettling to me. But I didn’t run out and try to find a new boyfriend right away. It is very important to me to be able to live life on my own. No one should be afraid of being single. See #1 for ways that you can “focus on yourself.”
 Stay friends, if you can. If you can at least be civil with each other, then you can avoid the drama of messy breakups, and life will be so much easier for both of you. My ex and I are still good friends and talk all the time. In some ways it’s made everything easier. (Then again, we never did do anything the “normal” way.) If your breakup was so messy that you’ll never speak again, don’t dwell on it. Everything happens for a reason.
 Write about it. I’ve been participating in the Poetry in Motion contest, and all of my poems have been weird, dark, depressing poems about love not lasting. None of the poems are 100% factual, but writing them has been therapeutic for me. I can express my thoughts on paper much easier than verbally. Whether you’re a fiction writer or a poet, you can bring elements of your real life into your work. Journaling may also help you. |
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Thanks to everyone who left feedback on my last newsletter about the claddagh ring! I'm glad to have introduced so many of you to it.
Crys, I really enjoyed your newsletter. I wasn't aware of the Claddagh ring. What a joy to discover it and learn of it's romantic meanings.- StephBee 
Crys! What a wonderful NL! Only thing missing was the color green! A thoughtful series of thoughts, penned to perfection! Immediately I visited the "Irish For Beginners" lessons - thanks! And also for highlighting my work, I am humbled as well. Continue with this venture!
Encore! ENCORE!- drjim
Great newsletter! I've never heard of the claddagh ring but I love the idea of it; very romantic! A nice way to celebrate St. Patrick's day.- Grace 
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Write a scene where a couple breaks up. Give them motivation and emotions. It might be fun to use characters from a previous work of yours, or to imagine if famous literary lovers were to split. Don't forget to send me your poems/stories using the form below. They could be featured in an upcoming newsletter! |
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