Keeping It Together

First Kiss

This is my first entry, going solo, since my daughter has been leading the way as I learn 'how to' within this site.
I still have to work out how to enter comps. (To my daughter - Thank you for being my guide. What would I do without you?)

First Kiss

A friend sent me this as an email: -

“Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

“I remember my first real girlfriend kiss. (3 years ago) She tried to slip the tongue in, and I swear with no word of exaggeration, my first thought was, "Aaaarr, it feels like a slug trying to burrow into my mouth!!!!" And I had the expression to go with it. Didn't really go down well. And things didn't really improve all that much either. I am definitely not a kissing person. I do better with hugs.”


I don’t remember how we got into talking about first kisses, but nevertheless this was my reply.


I read this when checking my emails, after getting back from a night at the theatre. Then I went to bed. It is funny what gets triggered in the middle of the night from your casual comment earlier in the day.

Last night you had me thinking of the awkwardness of my first kiss; who it was; where it was; and when it was. I was all of 15 or 16 at the time but since I don't kiss and tell the rest remains silent.

"Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I remember my first real girlfriend kiss. (3 years ago) She tried to slip the tongue in"

It sound like you weren't expecting it or even emotionally ready for it at the time. The wrong time and place or the wrong person can upset the whole process.

I always thought the guy should be the one to make the move anyway. Having had all green lights on the way so he could be sure she would welcome the approach. There is nothing worse than rejection at that awkward point. Maybe these days' girls are taking more of an initiative in these matters.

Who knows, go with the flow. I'm really not much of an expert in these things in the first place, since I'm too way out of practice these days.

Kissing seems to be an exchange of bodily fluids that, as a nurse, isn't very hygienic.

Dental hygiene, bad breath or bad body odour can also mess up the moment.

What either partner has been eating can mess up the occasion e.g. onions, garlic or something that the other person doesn't like (yuk peanut butter).

On the other hand this could be overcome and it could actually cause a kiss eg. chocolate lol. Enjoying the same meal (same food). Pizza etc.

There are all sorts of kisses. An elderly gentleman frind kisses hands. That is not the same as ‘a slug trying to burrow into my mouth!!!!’, or a kiss between parents and children; or Nanna and grandchildren. They are the cuddly, snuggly, kiss on the side of the face or forehead.

Then there are the blowing kisses i.e. kiss the palm of the hand and blowing it into the direction of the intended person. New-to-me is the butterfly kisses, which is kissing the tip of each finger and tickling the other person.

Then there are the more intimate kisses. The kisses that run up an arm or across the back of the neck with the heat of the exhaled breathes. Now that will warm up other places. I think I have been reading too many romance novels.

Now you can probably think of other kinds of kisses, too.

There was one kiss that happened to me quite recently that opened my heart. I hadn't even realized my heart was so closed until then, since when it happened, my heart actually felt quiet painful.

I was just leaving the room and had turned the light out when, with a very small voice, came the words, "Will you kiss me good night, my daughter always used to kiss me good night?"

So I walked back to the bed and leaned over and gave her a hug and a kiss on the temple saying, "It would be my sincere pleasure to give you a kiss good night. Sweet dreams." As I walked through the door, quietly closing it behind me, tears welled up in my eyes and a lump came to my throat.

Usually with dementia the residents would refer to their mum or their dad so it took me by surprise when she said referred to her daughter. This is a sweet little old lady who, at that moment, got into my heart.

While nursing regular in a Nursing Home we get to know our residents quite well and we do get to really care about some of them. Then there are some of them that touch our hearts and when they go to heaven we cry. This lady reached right in and touched my heart.

It is the unexpected responses that still surprise me from time to time; that was one of them. It gave me a measure of where love is missing in my life.

And then there are hugs. Hugs are another topic altogether.

Cheers (fizzgig)

~ To err is human....to purr is feline ~