Romance Newsletter

June 14th, 2004

About This Newsletter

“Love is as much of an object as an obsession, everybody wants it, everybody seeks it, but few ever achieve it, those who do will cherish it, be lost in it, and among all, never ... never forget it.” ~Curtis Judalet




Letter From The Editor

Finding true love is a challenge that is very difficult for various reasons. Often true love is hard to find because all we find are people who don't meet our expectations. How can we expect to find someone who is perfect, when we ourselves are not perfect? We focus on finding the perfect mate, and we sometimes only see what we choose to observe. Many times we don't realize that the person we have come to know is not always who the person truly is.

Love happens when you least expect it. Searching endlessly for a true love will not guarantee you find it. If we are loving people, and treat people with kindness, love will find us. However, if we're desperate to find love, then we'll grab just anything and end up, often, with nothing.

In a story or poem, love can be just as complicated but easier to show. When we are writing we can have the characters say and feel anything we choose to. Sadly, in real life we cannot. We do not know what our mates always feel and think.

We can use writing as an outlet to express true feelings and release unwanted feelings. We can use words to describe what we hope to find in love, or to show how we desire our mates to act and feel. We can create feelings or situations we never wish to experience with our mates as well. The possibilities
are limitless.

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Asks and Answers

Interview with Octobers Lie


Before you found true love, what were your expectations?

A. A fairy tale romance. A handsome prince, flawless life, and to live happily ever after. Actually, I thought that I would find someone a lot like me and we would have the 'Perfect' relationship. The nice little house with the white picket fence.

What are some misconceptions people have about finding true love?

A. One misconception, I think, is that your first love is not necessary going to be your true love. Ah, yes, it may seem like it at the moment, but only time will tell.

Another misconception, in my opinion, is that we have to search for true love. I don't think we actually find true love, it finds us. My husband and I dated off and on while in school and after we graduated. I think we were both searching, and really didn't give each other a chance. I know I didn't him. Something happened though, and we just clicked. I didn't expect to find true love, but I did. The point being, that if you are searching for true love, you may miss it. I think the song, The Search is Over by Survivor says it all. The lyrics are amazing, and so true. (Yes, I'm an 80's girl)

When you are writing in what ways can you have your characters fall in love that may seem less obvious than what is commonly known?

A. Tough question, Lexi. I don't think it really matters if you are a 'little' cliche as long as you add freshness to your writing.

Do you have any suggestions on how writers can stay away from the every day typical romance novels?

A. Once again, don't be too cliche. Try to steer away from it. But, if you find your story is a bit cliche, spice it up. Add some drama.

How do two people who truly are in love act when they are together?

A. They can openly show affection and compassion. When I say openly, I don't mean that they are lip locked every minute in public, but that simple gestures also show affection. They are truly comfortable with each other.

What stories, articles, or poems exemplify true love?

A. Oh my! Another tough question, Lexi. There are many that exemplify true love. Those are items that are usually written from the author's heart. Many of those writings can be found here on Writing.Com. This is truly an amazing site.

Octobers Lie , thank you for taking time out of busy life to be interviewed.

Feedback and Comments

~Sweets~ : Hey, Lexi. It's quite crushing thinking that you can't fall in love as a teenager. Should I know dismiss it as an impossibility? I certainly don't want to, it adds such a cynical air to something precious. Maybe there's some rational process I can use to evaluate my feelings, or our compatibility.

~Sweets~ , I apologize if my last issue left you with the impression that true love is impossible for teenagers. That was certainly not my intention. The answers to the survey were different viewpoints from various authors, some of which you may agree with and others which you may not. I personally think it is possible for teenagers to find true love, but I also think it is possible for teenagers to confuse infatuation with true love from time to time. Sometimes it is hard for people in general to distinguish the difference between the two because there are strong emotions and feelings involved. Don't dismiss the possibility. Live, learn, feel and experience. True love is out there for everyone. And always remember everyone has their own opinions


Octobers Lie : Outstanding newsletter, Lexi. The results from your survey were intriguing. Thank you for including my opinions, and I found it very interesting reading everyone else's thoughts on the subject.


Pretty in Black : Another excellent editorial this week, Lexi. I love your newsletters... They are always interesting (and I really like the interesting topics!) Keep up the wonderful work!
Take care,
Jamie


roobear1: W-O-W, Lexi! Very nice newsletter! I liked reading through the survey responses.
Roobear


Thank you for all your wonderful comments and feedback. As always, it is appreciated. ~Lexi

In My Next Issue
The Proposal and Engagement

Until next time,
Lexi